My SW life is adversely affecting my health. How do you compartmentalize?

@AlienZipper: How much time do you spend on here a day? I don't even know what is reasonable anymore. Do you jump on and offline or just here for a block of time per day?

@GlamGirl: I just hit and miss a lot these days. I used to be on here a lot more, but I had to make myself stop because it was interfering with other things in my life....

@AlienZipper: Good advice, AZ. But you aren't in a sexless marriage, my friend.

@PoetryNEmotion: No, I am not, and I know that changes everything. But it's easier to limit your time here in the beginning rather than trying to do after... I think that's wise regardless of your circumstances...

@AlienZipper: I was better at limiting it in the beginning. It's so much harder now. Probably because I didn't know anyone hardly then.

I think I have FOMO too.

@GlamGirl: it is harder once you get to know people, but I would still look at seeing where you can cut back even a little bit. It wasn't easy for me, but it's been beneficial.

@AlienZipper: I am def going to try. Actually logging out, will help. #swgoals 🙌

@GlamGirl: You go girl! :-)

@AlienZipper: Thanks for the support! I need all the help I can get!!

@GlamGirl: You're welcome. You'll find that there are some good, caring people here who can be a great support system...

@AlienZipper: Definitely! God bless SW!

@GlamGirl: I have some friends here who came from EP, and they have proven to be as real a friend as any I've had, particularly in the past year.

@AlienZipper: That's so wonderful!
Okay, I am really logging out now! Have a fabulous day!!

@GlamGirl: You too! 🤗

@PoetryNEmotion: yeah but is that how peeps justify cheatin and deceiving spouses now ? What happened to the for worse part of vows

@Donovan: People know what cheating is. People know what lies are. I suppose some may find it okay to cheat or to lie to their spouses or to themselves. For worse? One can take that all different ways. Each of us is sent problems. How we handle them is reflective upon ourselves. I don't think anyone when saying vows thinks they will ever divorce or live in sexlessness or whatever the problems become. I am saying that we have choices. And if we aren't happy, we can change our lives. I don't think anyone deserves sexlessness. If someone is terminally ill or something similar, then that is temporary. But to exist in a sexless marriage for whatever length of time and expect to be happy, to be loving, to thrive-that is impossible. These are my words and my opinions. I have no excuses, Donovan. Do your words indicate someone has done this to you-cheated or lied?

@Donovan: I am not trying to justify anything. For at least three years, I have been in the "worse" part of my marriage. He won't go to counseling or do anything to improve our sexless marriage. Coming to SW was a last resort, in hopes getting moral support and better dealing with my situation, because I am choosing to stay in my marriage. I also want to avoid falling into a physical affair. I fully realize this is not my finest hour.

That's my inclination, but hesitating because I know he won't understand this community, why I am here and desire to stay. @ImLobo:

@ImLobo: I have basically already had that convo with him, telling him I no longer need him in that way, that I am getting "support" elsewhere. I gave him a pass. I am no longer asking him, or putting pressure on him. They are his issues to resolve. It's his loss. I told him he has won the marriage lottery, and is holding the golden ticket, but he doesn't even realize it or appreciate it. Sigh...

@GlamGirl: *hugs*

@GlamGirl that is so sad. Is that when you decided physical intimacy between was dead?

Won the marriage lottery... I would think that would be you and not the "pass" you offered him.

No, it was dead long before this post. @VeronicaJane