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Interesting Male SWeeps love findings

Conducted an official poll recently asking single SW men what trait they want MOST in a gf or partner.
The top answer was a tie!! Kindness AND/OR Affectionate were the number one trait they want. (7 men said kindness, 7 said affectionate) Second place was Funny/humorous as a trait they want. Its interesting because now I wonder if each person had a different idea of what affectionate may be, or if all viewed it the same: a gf holding hands? Giving surprise kisses or hugs? ...or cuddles? Perhaps this will be another poll!!💋💜🌹
Probably different people do view it differently. But my definition is more along your line of reasoning.
Whodunnit · M
No-one said big boobs??

Am I on the right site? 😯
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Whodunnit It was shocking lol, in a wow-some- guys -DO -enjoy -kindness way 🤣
Whodunnit · M
@Coralmist In all honesty I think most men just want to be liked. We don't really ask for much more than that. Well, sex too of course, but it's nice to know the person you're sleeping with actually likes you too, lol.
ravenwind43 · 51-55, F
I find those results interesting.
Affectionate meaning willing to have sex?
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@LustControl Lol..just like in general..enjoys touch, or giving massage ir snuggling.
PirateMonkeyCabinet · 36-40, M
I saw your other post and intended to reply, but things popped up and I didn't get around to it. I do think it'd be a hard poll to answer, as in fairness multiple of those were almost equally important to me. But I digress...

You say you're wondering if people had a different idea of what "affectionate" may be, and to be honest I think that applies to almost everything on that list. Sure, a lot of traits have a certain common ground that most people would agree fall under that trait, but there's also a lot of variance even in something like "kindness". What one person considers especially kind, another thinks is just "normal", and yet another may think that is not a product of kindness.

I know this one wasn't on your list, but the same could be said for something like wanting a partner that is "romantic". Some think it's so incredibly romantic for their partner to make something big pop a ring in front of everyone at a restaurant , whilst others will absolutely loathe that and feel that it is more romantic for it to be a small, private and more intimate happening.

Or even in terms of affection as you mention: Someone may want a lot of physical affection in the calmness of their home, but aren't comfortable with public displays of it. Some may think affection is super-important to them, but at the same time may have experienced things that make it so can only handle a limited amount of it.

The way I see it, you don't really get anywhere close to an objective read from a poll like that. You get to know what someone wants based on their subjective definition of the traits.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@PirateMonkeyCabinet Ty for a thoughtful reply..there really are so many ways to view or think about a trait, like kindness or affection too.

 
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