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Why do you think people get offended and hold grudges for a lifetime? specially when the offender has done nothing and wants only peace?

Just something I’ve noticed. Dear God don’t ever let my heart get that hard.
Thevy29 · 36-40, M Best Comment
[@622125,Thevy29] correct!! And nosy people will be nosy! Controlling people will be controlling!

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
I have known a couple of men like that. My ex-husband had a grudge against his older sister for stealing chocolate bars from the gas station where their parents managed & blaming him for it, he was about 5 years old when it happened. He could never manage to be civil to her when we’d go over to visit his parents & she was there, alway making some nasty cut-down remark to her. I ignored him & talked to her politely.
[@16806,cherokeepatti] yes. It boggles my mind. Even if someone did me flat out wrong, and wanted peace, I’d forgive them even if I had to trod lightly around them.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
[@1143464,Curiositeintrigueedunefille] how can someone get married and have 3 children and never say a word to their in-laws? They are good people too.
[@16806,cherokeepatti] wow… that’s as good as the devil wants. I can’t even imagine.
BreezeyBree · 56-60, F
I'd say it depends on what's been done. Some things never should be done or said if you don't want to cause a divide that can't be fixed. In my experience, if an offender really wanted peace, an offender wouldn't offend...especially to a point it is not fixable in another's heart and mind.
BreezeyBree · 56-60, F
[@1143464,Curiositeintrigueedunefille] Well, online, public sites...nothing posted is really our own business when shared with all.
Strangers on internet have nothing to lose by not bothering to associate with others they will never meet... it's no loss.
[@1210541,BreezeyBree] But.. in my opinion ‘anything ‘can be forgiven… and must be if we want to go to heaven. But that’s just me. And this offender here did nothing to her!!!
[@1210541,BreezeyBree] nothing was posted. See you pm!
Magenta · F
It may be tied to 'victim mentality' and holding on to it as it defines them as the one "being wronged". I also read that "closed-minded people are often the ones that hold on to resentments."
Magenta · F
[@1173,Magenta] Maybe tied to their overly high expectations too.
[@1173,Magenta] Whatever it is.. I hope they feel better.. cause when one does another absolutely no harm yet they put their nose in their business cause the do as they wish with their own profile… I mean really… sounds like they have a major problem!
[@1173,Magenta] or control issues.. or nosy issues… dunno but still immature as heck..,
BreezeyBree · 56-60, F
I answered in a broader sense than just one given situation.
Different strokes for different folks.
[@1210541,BreezeyBree] yes ma’am.
Virgo79 · 56-60, M
Depends on what was done, for me anyway.
[@349935,Virgo79] I’m going to message you something. Watch for it!
Virgo79 · 56-60, M
[@1143464,Curiositeintrigueedunefille] go for it
[@349935,Virgo79] give me a few minutes…
i'm quick to take offence, it's just how i've always been.
[@1201332,ravenhill0Ironanvil] Do you get over it quickly?

 
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