Why do you think people get offended and hold grudges for a lifetime? specially when the offender has done nothing and wants only peace?

@cherokeepatti yeah.. grudges are not good.

@NoGamesTolerated My friend started dating a guy in high school. He was very possessive with her. One time after about a year he took her to the theater and she got up to go use the restroom. When she came back she was trying to find her seat and he stuck his foot out deliberately and tripped her and she fell down in the aisle. He thought it was funny. She told her cousin and it got back to her parents. Her mother told her she ought to break up with him for abusing her, and her father agreed. He got a grudge against the parents and refused to speak a word to them. She ended up marrying him right out of high school & the last time I spoke to her father (when I was working at a store) he said that he still wouldn’t speak to them. He would occasionally drive her to see them (they only live in the next county) a few times a year and he would come in the house and not speak to anyone, not even a hello, goodbye or kiss my ass. Just stand there and look around. My friend was and is a beautiful woman, I don’t know how she settled for such a damn loser.

@cherokeepatti For real Patti… but tripping someone on a date is very immature. It would have been my last date with him.

@NoGamesTolerated that’s what her mother tried to explain to her. He was manipulating her with emotions when she would try to talk to him about things he’d hold his stomach and say he had an ulcer and crap like that. He played her like a fiddle. I wanted to cry when he married her. She deserved a whole lot better

@cherokeepatti It truly sounds like it. I’m sorry for her. I hope her marriage was better than her date. It’s inconceivable to me how people hold grudges forever. I’d be so sick…

@NoGamesTolerated I have wondered if there was some type of milder version of autism going on there with them to behave this way.

@cherokeepatti makes us wonder for sure…

@NoGamesTolerated they are stuck in black & white thinking and can’t resolve the past by understanding why people do certain things. Even though they themselves are guilty of much worse they can’t forgive someone else for something decades later.

@cherokeepatti yes. It boggles my mind. Even if someone did me flat out wrong, and wanted peace, I’d forgive them even if I had to trod lightly around them.

@NoGamesTolerated how can someone get married and have 3 children and never say a word to their in-laws? They are good people too.

@cherokeepatti wow… that’s as good as the devil wants. I can’t even imagine.