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CeoriAvalon · 22-25, F
generally i try too
Ksmile14 · F
@CeoriAvalon What if its something freaky?
CeoriAvalon · 22-25, F
@Ksmile14 thats what the block is for
Ksmile14 · F
@CeoriAvalon I'm gonna have to learn how to use it.

sarabee1995 · 26-30, F Best Comment
Oh god no! Private messages are for friends; for people with whom you've developed a relationship and some modicum of trust. They are not for random strangers.

I've made the analogy ever since the EP days that a PM from a stranger is like a stranger in a bar coming up to you and asking if he can chat with you in the dark back corner. Hell no! You wanna talk to me? Then sit up here at the bar with the lights over head and the people all around. Private chats are for people who've built that trust.
Ksmile14 · F
@sarabee1995 🤗🥰
th3r0n · 41-45, M
@sarabee1995 it amazes me that I ever managed to PM you at all Sara haha, you so would have been one to skip my message easily
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@th3r0n We spoke on stories first. The conversation naturally moved into PMs. That's different.
Quizzical · 46-50, M
I respond to everything... Though I might cut the conversation short if it becomes unsavoury.

Yes, it even happens to us men, lol
Ksmile14 · F
@Quizzical lol It's good to know it doesn't discriminate for gender. lol
Quizzical · 46-50, M
@Ksmile14 😁
Travelbug · 56-60, F
No most of those messages are immediately about sex or if you check their profile all their groups are sex ones. So mostly an instant block.
Ksmile14 · F
@Travelbug yeah one of the had a name like "BigD" or something like that. I didn't think D stood for David.
Travelbug · 56-60, F
@Ksmile14 you know, it could of been disease
Ksmile14 · F
🤣🤭@Travelbug
Well with the three folk I regularly exchange PMs with on here there would have been a first message sometime!In two of those cases it was on R2T first but we had had quite a bit of interaction on the forum first.And I always respond to them as they do to me.

But anyone who sends me a first time message gets to see that if we have not had any interaction they may not get a response.I like to know something about folk who message me,And some have nothing on their about me.Which does not make me likely to respond.I need to have some idea of what we could chat about..
Ksmile14 · F
AmmieBell · 18-21, F
I don't lol. But I'll respond even if we haven't interacted before. I likely won't if they don't have info about them on their profile, or if they haven't made posts though. If I can't get a glimpse as to who you are or what your personality is, I won't respond. I don't respond to people who I don't think I can hold quality conversation with, because after I respond to them they can continue to message me unless I block them lol
Ksmile14 · F
@AmmieBell That is a good way to handle it. You seem very confident and are probably able to handle those situations. I think I'm gonna have to learn some things about being open to the new and still standing up for myself. Thanks for answering!!!
AmmieBell · 18-21, F
@Ksmile14 Honestly I just stop responding if they start to get annoying lol. So its not that I handle them, as much as I avoid confrontation lol
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Ksmile14 · F
@geoam1 Good advice! Thanks!
SW-User
Oh hell no some gets deleted without even fully read
Ksmile14 · F
@SW-User lol you being all proactive! 😎
SW-User
@Ksmile14 I like to protect myself
JP1119 · 36-40, M
I may private message people I don’t know if I look at your groups and see some things I want to talk about, or if I read one or more of your posts and liked it, or even if I just like your avatar 😉

I don’t think it’s weird. This is a place I come to to talk to strangers anonymously.
Ksmile14 · F
@JP1119 I guess. It's just not my style that's why I asked. I might be the weird one! lol
JP1119 · 36-40, M
@Ksmile14 So do you have a boyfriend?
Ksmile14 · F
@JP1119 lol no
Wghtlvr · M
Yes, I reply to everyone but it rarely happens. I'm much more more of a chatter than a poster, so it's exciting to get a PM. I like to talk to people and find out what they are interested in.
trackboy · 22-25, M
@Wghtlvr @Wghtlvr do you get a lot of messages??? 🍻
Wghtlvr · M
@trackboy No, I do not.
trackboy · 22-25, M
@Wghtlvr you should start messaging people then you will get more dm going. its fun to dm!
Noreaster · F
Sometimes that's how you make new friends but it seems more often than not it's some guy who wants to chat about things you'd prefer not to. I don't respond to all and I have the message filters in use.
Ksmile14 · F
@Noreaster YESSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!
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Ksmile14 · F
@MalteseFalconPunch Do you always replay with a "yarp"? lol
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Yulianna · 22-25, F
no, it is not a good idea. i delete many messages without response, mainly from guys who have apparently used up most of their vocabulary and all of their brain power to say, "Hi!!!"

if that's their strong opening line... why would i waste my time?
vetguy1991 · 51-55, M
Ksmile14 · F
@vetguy1991 Yeah me neither.
Peaches · F
Ksmile14 · F
@Peaches Patrick Star!!! From Spongebob Squarepants! lol
Peaches · F
@Ksmile14 OMG...I didn't know WHO that was?!🤣
Ksmile14 · F
@Peaches lololololol 😂🤣
Zoranna · F
No. Some can be quite rude, disgusting even so they don't deserve an acknowledgement (an angry reply) that it's been read never mind a reply. As for those who only write "Hi" 🙄
Ksmile14 · F
@Zoranna hi.

they don't say how hey know me or why they think we would have a good conversation or anything.

Just....hi. 🤦‍♀️
SW-User
No I screen my messages and I check out your profile to make sure you aren't a fetish weirdo. I got sick of innocent conversations doing 180s into fetish shit real fast.
Ksmile14 · F
@SW-User Yeah...I get that.
SW-User
Usually, unless I get a creepy vibe or they open with something uncool. Like I once got unsolicited home brew porn as an opening message.
Ksmile14 · F
@SW-User wow!
HellfireandCandy · 22-25, F
No way, i try to be open and chatty but the longer I've been on here the stricter I've gotten in who I'll respond to
Keysha · 22-25, F
@HellfireandCandy exactly, I learned from my mistake 😂
SW-User
Nope 👎🏻 And I’m running out of blocks haha 🥰
Ksmile14 · F
@SW-User ill give you some of mine to use. 😁
SW-User
Danke! Lol 🌹 @Ksmile14
Ksmile14 · F
@SW-User Bitte 🥀
th3r0n · 41-45, M
Sometimes someone may be searching groups of interest and read someone's groups and be really interested to talk to them, I know I've done that
SW-User
Depends on how good the message is as to whether or not you should respond. But yeah, ice breaking through post is always easier
Ksmile14 · F
@SW-User I agree!
I only reply to friends and people that have common interests with me.
Ksmile14 · F
@Deeana081971 That's a good way to look at it. I used to reply to them all but there were some really weird people. lol Now I use the same criteria as you. :)
@Ksmile14 Oh yes i hate the weird ones. lol🙂
Ksmile14 · F
@Deeana081971 lol Me toooooo :*
JRVanguard · 26-30, M
I’ll respond if I know them but I’ve gotten some weird ones on here before
Ksmile14 · F
@JRVanguard Yeah its the weird ones I'm talking about.
JRVanguard · 26-30, M
@Ksmile14 Some people just copy and paste something disgusting and fetishistic to anyone with a green dot on
It’s pretty annoying
probably. I'm sure my message count is far less than yours
Ksmile14 · F
@stound lol I don't get a lot, but I haven't been here very long so I don't know very many people.
@Ksmile14 fair enough
ButterRobot · 51-55, M
i ignore the ones ones that that are clearly trying to feed some fetish.
Ksmile14 · F
@ButterRobot Yessssss......
Starchild1983 · 41-45, F
I usually do unless they are rude or the opening line is sexual
Ksmile14 · F
@Starchild1983 Yeah. I can understand that
Peaceful · F
It really depends on the message. And where the convo starts to go. 😅
Ksmile14 · F
@Peaceful I think you are right! 😁
SW-User
No. My line of thinking here is pretty much the same as yours.
Ksmile14 · F
@SW-User Glad I'm not the only one.
AnukBinary · M
I sent a penis pictures to shut them up.
Ksmile14 · F
@AnukBinary 😂🤣
AnukBinary · M
@Ksmile14 And they're mostly of my dog.
MrGoodbar · 51-55, M
I don't get many unsolicited messages so yes I do respond to all of them
AllelujahHaptism · 36-40, M
Unless they say something really weird then yeah
Not that I get many messages lol
Shutterbug · 56-60, M
I use messages requests... then I only get messages from my friends
Ksmile14 · F
@Shutterbug good strategy
JohnOinger · 41-45, M
I don't mind getting private messages from Strangers
Ksmile14 · F
@JohnOinger I can believe that
Rambler · M
Usually but not necessarily, not that there are all that many
All of them. 🤔 maybe I shouldn’t.
Ksmile14 · F
@MrFreeeeeze I don't know that you shouldn't. its just weird for me.
Some of the shit I get is proper comedy gold though. I roll with it till they realize I’m just being an ass and stop sending me msg’s 🍿😁@Ksmile14
SW-User
I have 154 unread messages
Ksmile14 · F
@SW-User lol you don't delete them?
SW-User
@Ksmile14 I probably should lol but don’t
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Ksmile14 · F
@Lostandconfused what's the difference between the ones you respond to and the ones you don't?
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
I try, but no. I just don't have enough time.
Ksmile14 · F
@Fungirlmmm im sure the people who've been here a lot longer than me get lots of them.
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
I talk to anyone😕
Ksmile14 · F
@Virgo79 you're a better person than I am.
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
@Ksmile14 I suppose
BellsOfJune · 18-21, F
Yes. I try to.
Ksmile14 · F
@BellsOfJune Even if they're just wanting to talk sex to you? That seems to happen a lot.
BellsOfJune · 18-21, F
@Ksmile14 No. Definitely not then. I shouldve said i try within reason lol
Degbeme · 70-79, M
I do answer everyone that writes me. ☺️
Definitely not
Ksmile14 · F
@DreamyCrush Yeah I don't see you putting up with that stuff!
Benjr134 · M
I respond to most of them.
Ksmile14 · F
@Benjr134 👍️
Straylight · 31-35, F
Depends on the message.
Ksmile14 · F
@Straylight I can see that. makes sense.
Definitely no
Ksmile14 · F
@DreamyCrush lol Me neither! :)
Ksmile14 · F
@QueenOfTheNerds That's why you're the queen! ☺️
StarLily · 51-55, F
Ksmile14 · F
@StarLily 👍️
Keysha · 22-25, F
I originally tried to respond to every one but it became way too much. Now I only respond to people I know and like talking to, or new people who seem normal I'll give a chance
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