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Thank you admin

I had an unpleasent experience here last night. I want to thank @Nuno for acting quickly and @Jessa29 for checking i was ok.
I havent decided yet it i'm comfortable enough to stay .....although i dont want to be bullied off a site ive been a member of since the off.
Possibly...i may put this account into Hiatus ....i dont want to delete it because i have messages from friends going back years i really dont want to loose.
But i dont feel safe as Ruby anymore.
I may set up another account ....new name...new start ....im not sure. And..if i do....i wont be adding friends, followers etc. Im just very uncertain now of being here.. or any social media to be honest.

Ive shared my real (first) name here with about 8 people over 3 and a half years. People id built nice friendships with...and trusted. One of these people (someone i thought highly of for a while) sadly didnt like something i said on a post a few weeks ago and turned on me in spectactualar fashion. I blocked. But last night i found out they are obviously still extreamly cross with me .....and clearly wanted others to see me in a bad light....even calling me by my real name on the post.

I dont know what to do....thoughts? X

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Nuno · Admin

A few contacts that might me useful:

https://similarworlds.com/help/3-What-do-I-do-if-someone-is-harassing-me-or

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@Nuno thank you.

Miram · 31-35, F

Make sure to tell all your friends about them.

When my stalker was trying to blackmail me and isolate me from others here, I made a public post about it exposing what they think can be used against me.

They are out, I am still standing.

There is nothing they can do to hurt you. They better focus on moving on.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@Miram there are many people i cant tell... because they are friends with this person. Unless they saw the post....they arenot going to believe it of him.
Also...i think it highly likely he will set up a new account and do it again on a random post of mine to discredit me.
The best of it is.....i never told him any lies or half truths. I chose not to put a 'full story' in a public post...instead i invited people to pm me for futher details. This.. it seems is dishonest, means i am hiding things in order to stop myself looking bad. I just felt not everyone needed to know.....but to pm me if they wanted to.

Miram · 31-35, F

@RubySoo It is your right to decide what to share not someone else's.

EugenieLaBorgia · F

Don't let ANYONE here bully you into leaving!!

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EugenieLaBorgia · F

@RubySoo Ruby...you shouldn't be scared and we [b]KNOW[/b] you are a very nice woman!

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@EugenieLaBorgia just as many people here ( including myself for a long time) think he is a very nice man.

EugenieLaBorgia · F

@RubySoo Well, Ruby...ignore them. Many people here actually think I eat street orphans!!

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

I'm so sorry that someone did this to you, but glad that Nuno and Jessa29 helped you. I really hope you don't go. I enjoy seeing your posts. Like others have said, no one should be able to bully you into leaving. I know that you're a very nice person, and it's clear that many others know that too.

Having said that, I know how much it can hurt to have someone you had trusted, whom you had considered a good friend, suddenly turn on you. This person should not only be blocked, but also reported for spreading lies about you.

Sending hugs. 🤗🤗🤗

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@TeresaRudolph71 thank you x

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

That’s a really low blow publicly using your real name. That’s a huge boundary that he crossed. People may have their differences and get emotional or really bitter but to publicize identity is the nail in the coffin. Honestly I can see why you would want to start over but the fact is he will find out what your new user name is. I’d say block him, you notified administrators and let them deal with him. Sorry about somebody being so intrusive and revealing like that :(

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@Keepitsimple hexwas already blocked. He set up a new account. The thing is....the post was indirectly about him. I asked why i could still see posts and avatar of a blocked user ( him....no names mentioned)
I think somebody must have given him the heads up on the post. So someone is no doubt reading this and passing on what im saying. So...he'll probably keep settingbup new accounts and keep doing it.

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

@RubySoo Keep your circle small. Some people are so vain, everything is about them, you know? Like not everything is about them. Whether or not it was isn’t his business. You’re free to post what you want barring names.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@Keepitsimple thats exactly what he accused me of...making everything about me.....

WineandCoffee · 51-55, F

Don’t go ... if you go .. how would it help others in similar situations .. your always here and well .. I guess I never said it but I think that your an amazing person and I look forward to seeing you here...

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@WineandCoffee thank you x

WineandCoffee · 51-55, F

❤️ @RubySoo

rjc36 · 56-60, M

I am so sorry to hear that. The people that you have made friends with over the years should know who you are and what you believe to be important to you. Even though one of those so called friends has decided to try to show you in a bad light dose not mean that others will automatically se you that way. I'd you good do not keep in contact with the other friends you have here they will feel they have won this battle and your true friends will be missing out on your comments and posted.

Just my opinion.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@rjc36 im sure my friends would understand i dont want to stay somewhere i feel threatened.

nicedave · 41-45, M

That is horrible no one should be bullied, we would hate to se you go, if you want to talk im here

ozgirl512 · 26-30, F

Non illegitimi carborundum.... Which translates (very) loosely as "don't let the bastards grind you down"!

Your refusal to give in to bully boy tactics makes You a winner!

Success is the best revenge!

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RubySoo · 56-60, F

@ozgirl512 but... like i say. Hes a good guy. People like him and its not for me to interfere in his realtionships with other people here. I wouldnt want to do that...its not my nature. Just because he doesnt like me doesnt mean its right for me to discredit him to people who like him and have a friendship with him. Even though thats what hes tried to do to me.

ozgirl512 · 26-30, F

@RubySoo I'm not saying you should attempt to discredit him... But ignore him, people get to know the truth eventually

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@ozgirl512 he set up a new account just to threaten to share things id said...'prove me a liar'.
He'll do it again.

SW-User

It is difficult when you have been compromised like that and fully understand you wanting to take a break from it all.

It's sounds like you've built up good relationships on here and it would be a shame to lose them (even briefly) because of someone's behaviour towards you.

Hope everything works out for you.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@SW-User thank you. X

SW-User

If you make a new account please add me so we can stay in touch. You’re one of the most genuine and nicest people I’ve ever met here. Other people’s negativity defines them not you.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@SW-User if i make a new one....i shall stay anonomous for a while. We can still talk on email x

Celt43 · 46-50, M

I'm so sorry to hear that anyone who fell out with you should've kept the falling out between the two of you and should never have used your real name when you've not shared it publicly on here

Seren

There is never again excuse for calling anyone out by their name or details of their private life here. It’s an unspoken code of conduct IMO.

TexChik · F

Aww. You really can’t let nasty people determine who you are or where you can go or ruin your SW experience . I’m sure that your first name is not so unique that you could be singled out for it and lose your anonymity on this site . And you took care of business when you blocked that person . I’m sorry you were upset , but some people are very odd indeed ... and in spite of our best efforts ... just have to be blocked from our reality . Enjoy your friends here and understand its people like you that make SW a nice place to enjoy ! 😊

SW-User

I know what it feels like to be in the end of relentless hatred on SW and it speaks highly of their character not mine.

If it’s justified then calling out a user by their real name is needed.

If it isn’t as in your situation then it’s petty and not worth worrying over.

As you said they were dealt with yesterday.

If they try to make contact with you again block em.

Simple 🌸

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@SW-User so you think im over reacting?

SW-User

I’ve called out people before for creating problems for me here.

They aren’t worth it because of the backlash I received from it and their followers love the show.

If admin dealt with it then it’s done ✅

Block em and meet better people. There are always better people to meet that’s the valuable lesson that comes from their horrible behaviour.

Don’t allow them to take your happiness for one more day. Show them you can survive without them which you can because their company isn’t worth your time anymore.

If they retaliate again then let admin deal with them again privately.

I know this from personal experience here. 🕊@RubySoo

SW-User

There should be no need for you to leave or create a new account @RubySoo

MartinII · 70-79, M

Don’t give in to bullies. He or she, if still here, will no doubt have read your post and the many replies and will, at the least, be having second thoughts. Leaving would be to give in, and even changing your username and no longer making friends would be a partial surrender. And I would suggest sharing the name of the culprit, and depending what it was the nature of the offence, with people you trust.

I hope you stay and I hope things work out for you.

JollyLily · F

I didn't know this. You didn't tell me. Please don't let the bullies drive you away. Don't let them win.

Gelartsyyy · 22-25, F

Scary how fast the people you thought of as friends can turn against you.

YukikoAmagi

[c=#359E00]Jessa is actually friendly and helpful, she's help me too in the past[/c]

NudasPriest · 46-50, M

In the words of many: "Don't let the bastards grind you down".

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MicrowaveDinner · M

@NudasPriest Thought you were quoting some Machine Head haha

NudasPriest · 46-50, M

@MicrowaveDinner Ah, no ... this line brings a U2 song to my mind, but many have sung it.

Montanaman · M

@NudasPriest Rihanna.💞
Cheers, I'll drink to that.

Harmonium1923 · 51-55, M

I’m sorry you had to deal with that.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@Harmonium1923 thank you.
Im praying this is the end of it.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

Just coming out on this openly will discredit him if he should post anything about you now. Just point to this post if any should doubt it.

No matter what he says true or not, and there is no way to prove it's not a lie since he is anonymous, it still would work against him.

Hope that helps.

bowman81 · M

It is easier said than done....but ignore him. People know better. His only power comes from what you will allow. If he can't intimidate you, he has no power over you. You control that. Having you running and hiding empowers him.

SW-User

♥️ Leave only if you need to.
Not to back down to any mean bully bitches. You’re a sweet lady and always have been.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@SW-User thank you.
But im on pins.

SW-User

That's terrible...I'm sorry you're going thru this. I'm on your side if you need me.

blendednotshaken · 51-55, M

Are there 'contract' emoji's? then you could have it sent with love from you to them.

MarmeeMarch · M

Well if you come back just be regular -and dont share anything - intimate pics or names - basically anything that someone can use against you. Have fun here. I do - I dont share anything only a hand full of people know what state / city I live in. But that was my choice. Its all good.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@MarmeeMarch it was a person id considered a friend. Ive shated my real bame with just 8 people here of the dozens and dozens ive spoken with. It was no doubt me holding back certain info that cause this person to decide i was hiding sonething and wasnt the honest open person i claimed to be.

MarmeeMarch · M

@RubySoo Yea - too bad -you learned a lesson. I believe it says on here somewhere as a suggestion that you should keep personal info to yourself. Like phone numbers etc...

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@MarmeeMarch i didnt give any information only a shortened version of a christian name. He gave me info i didnt ask for and didnt use. That is possibly why he got so cross with me... for not repaying that favour.

SW-User

That's horrible.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@SW-User yes it was.

AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M

Don’t let the bullies win.

Harriet03 · 41-45, F

Don't let the haters win!!!! 😤

JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M

Sorry about that.

Nanori · F

what the shit

Montanaman · M

I'm so sorry this happened to you. It saddens me beyond words.😔🤗

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RubySoo · 56-60, F

@Montanaman ive been vocal about it all the time...longer than 6 months. Everyone just had me down as the negative b*tch who moaned about fake profiles and people and seemed to think it was all in my head.

Montanaman · M

@RubySoo Yeah, well, I was a total dick six months to a year ago. I'm sorry.😔

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@Montanaman you have nothing to be sorry for. We only see what people choose to share.
But in general here people are only here for laughs. They dont get involved....and thats cool....i understand that. What i didnt understand was people i thought were genuine friends not beliving what was going on at times.

Dusty101 · F

Admin are fantastic at helping.
Now you can forget about the pond spawn and continue enjoying it here.
And now it's all sorted which must be a good weight lifted.

caccoon · 36-40

That is really awful. I am so sorry that someone did that to you. You should do whatever you feel best doing. <3

I've had a few people get weird "obsessions" with me on here, making posts about me, calling me a "whore" etc... reposting my pictures. Making several fake accounts, one person threatened to kill themselves cause I blocked them, and kept making weird posts about me, etc. etc.

I don't KNOW, some people are just fucked in the head.

But ultimately, you're not. And you're still you, and people know that. I don't even know you very well, but, I've certainly never seen you be cruel or post anything that made me feel like you were being malicious.

Anyway... do what you think is best for you. But if you want to keep being Ruby, and you feel safe enough, then do it. <3🤗

InOtterWords · F

I have no idea what happened but there is no excuse for the way you have been treated.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@InOtterWords but i cant stop it happenibg again. Other than leaving....or setting up a new account.

InOtterWords · F

@RubySoo no, I get that. Maybe though if they see that you are not leaving they will see you cannot be intimidated And may make them lose interest.

Zonuss · 41-45, M

🤔 What in the world. Just stay. Dont let these idiots get to you.

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