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Is it wrong to call women "Sweetheart" on the phone?

I work as a telephone agent. My last caller insisted on calling me "sweetheart" during the call. He was an older gentleman. I get this from time to time, especially from older men in the American South. When guys talk like that, I feel a mix of feelings as a woman, both valued but also patronized.

Do you think it's good or bad when men talk to women this way? Why do you think so?
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zonavar68 · 51-55, M
sweetheart/love/hunny/bunny/babe/darling/etc. all very cringeworthy terms of so-called endearment.
@zonavar68 my wife calls me baby. I’m good with it. It’s unearned terms of endearment that more so bug me.
ShadowSister · 46-50, F
@zonavar68 @DarkHeaven What partners call each other consensually is entirely different. Part of the endearment of a "term of endearment" is that it is a little bit cheesy.
zonavar68 · 51-55, M
@ShadowSister Fair. I guess I don't have much experience with rewarding fulfilling loving relationships full of mutual admiration so to me that 'cheesyness' translates to 'unease'. I've been single over 5 yrs now.
@zonavar68 sorry. you’re somebody is out there. just be ready.
zonavar68 · 51-55, M
@DarkHeaven id like to think so despite experiences to date.
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