Only logged in members can reply and interact with the post.
Join SimilarWorlds for FREE »

This will probably get me blocked.

I keep reading all this blocking drama so many people seem to have. To my knowledge im not blocked..yet..nor have i blocked anyone. My question is in real life when someone disagrees with you or you dont like their opinions how do u deal with it. Seriously?
Top | New | Old
waterbottle87 · 36-40, M
Sometimes you have to let things go....being angry at someone only hurts you....I suppose forgiveness is powerful in these situations....and forgiveness takes practice
Smileandwave · 46-50, F
@waterbottle87: agree 100%. When u hold a grudge its hurting you more than its hurting them! And yep..forgiveness is hard..but its freeing!
saintsong · 41-45, F
I try not to judge, and sometimes it's okay to agree to disagree, I am open to constructive criticism but I am closed off to abuse.
Smileandwave · 46-50, F
@saintchantal: sometimes agreeing to disagree is the best solution.
For some that feel they need to win, that is difficult @Smileandwave:
Smileandwave · 46-50, F
@ShadowedWhispers: agree. Thus your block button will be very successful!
Usually avoid making statements using the word "you." This means I'm addressing the subject, not the person. It creates a better chance of avoiding offending someone's ego.

Mostly prefer to use the response,
"I disagree," if it's a matter of opinion, ethics or values,
"that's not factual," if I can provide the proof, or
"that's not logical," if the thinking contains a logical fallacy.

Then I wait to see if they ask a question, which could indicate curiosity and willingness to engage in conversation.

If someone is fanatical about something, I take a deep breath and call up calmness and relaxation with myself.

If someone is completely uninterested in hearing a different response, I may ask them about how and why they hold the view they do, and try to explore as deeply as they will allow. That way, I at least benefit from learning something more about how people tick.

Blocking I would only do if someone was verbally abusive or inappropriate.
So far have not had the need to do that.
Smileandwave · 46-50, F
@hartfire your reasoning and thinking is very similar to mine on this topic. Since posting this question i have learned that on this site the block button is useful on the rare occasions of what you described at the end. Thank you for sharing your positive communication skills...those work very well in the real world!! 👍
5thApprentice · 31-35, M
Just like here: avoid them and let them do their thing and I do mine. If we disagree on something then let's hash it out like adults.
I don't block either. I like freedom of speech for myself and others.
Smileandwave · 46-50, F
@ShadowedWhispers: agree..ive already handed out 25 of those for people to give me as needed.
saintsong · 41-45, F
@ShadowedWhispers: My son picked up similar reports from the army called a hurt feelings report, and it is an official government document, and it says things like I want my binky, or I want my mommy, and I am a sissy and two beers isn't enough
@saintchantal: LOL 😂
This message was deleted by its author.
Smileandwave · 46-50, F
@Bigben8: perfect!
SagePoet · 70-79, M
it depends on the degree that they disagree with me. If they are toxic people that alone I have nothing to do with them, others, I just have to see
Smileandwave · 46-50, F
@SagePoet I was too new when i posted this to realize how interesting it can get and an occasional block is necessary. 😉
SW-User
I am blocked by people who I have never had any interaction with..
I have blocked a few who insist on talking when the conversation is over...

In my work I am very much about dialogue...it's how things get done in my wheel house...

However, on any social media platform, everyone is 10 feet tall and bullet proof.. yet snaps at any thing they don't like..
Smileandwave · 46-50, F
@thoughtcriminal: hiding behind a keyboard gives the weak extra courage.
SW-User
@Smileandwave: indeed!
SW-User
Cogent point.
ravenwind43 · 51-55, F
I rarely block people unless they are repulsive (i.e. private message) and I prefer to scroll by. If someone continues to post inane things then mute works just as well. My goal is to avoid drama.
Good goal - Mine too @ravenwind43
That would be AWESOME
They start spouting of shit and boom I click a button and their voice and view disappear - That would be cool shit @Smileandwave:
Smileandwave · 46-50, F
@ShadowedWhispers: theres your nest egg buddy! Invent the reality block button! Patent that beiotch!
Fo Sho @Smileandwave:
ISMELLPROTEINPOWDER · 26-30, M
Simple just deal with it, online people don't like how someone looks they just block people on a blocking spree in real life people dint say a word
Use "I" language.
For instance, "I disagree with such-and-such point of view because...."
This keeps the discussion on the topic and avoids making judgements of the person who expressed the view.
If the other person responds with verbal abuse one can flag it, or simply not reply to that statement, or ignore them completely from then on.
Ramon67 · 61-69, M
I just avoid them
SW-User
This is exactly my point about blocking. In the real world I just work around people who are bothering me or are in my way. Avoid or ignore. No one needs to REMOVE them from the horizon for me to move along. That's how I handle it here too.

Blocking is so stupid.
But just imagine if you could in RL. One button and presto. We need it. @Robinsinwinter: LOL 😂
SW-User
That would make a great Christmas gift..
Smileandwave · 46-50, F
@Robinsinwinter: agree. In just the last couple days since i asked that question i got blocked by 3 people over the pettiest things. I honestly wonder how some people can function in society. Lol
sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
You have beer, you say?
Smileandwave · 46-50, F
@sighmeupforthat: ohhh...very clever..going the distraction route. Very nice indeed!
Bluesky53 · 61-69, M
I try to be respectfull,,,,,,unless they get too nasty,
Smileandwave · 46-50, F
@Bluesky53: then what do u do once the nasty sets in?
Bluesky53 · 61-69, M
@Smileandwave: they ae gone,
SW-User
Goralski · 56-60, M
Oooooo a virgin...I'll b yo first block
Smileandwave · 46-50, F
@Goralski: oh sweet!maybe i will get hardened and scorned and become a blocker too!!
GoldenWorm · 51-55, M
I block trolls and the impenetrable rwnj. In real life, I'm a fit middle age who did martial arts for years. My physical presence is enough to stop them from being that shirty in person.
This comment is hidden. Show Comment
I even consume them. I am so ashamed. @Smileandwave: 😜
diablo · 51-55, M
@LittleAnnie Do you use a reanimation spell for that? XD
I believe they are invited in their dead state. That's how I do it. @diablo
Depends. If they're abusive or their points of view are offensive to me as a woman or person of color I avoid them. They're not going to change my mind and I am unlikely to change theirs, nor do I feel obligated to try. I won't visit them and they're not welcome in my home.
Butch: Huh? What's she saying? Man, that's gibberish.

Dick: Fucked if I know. She's speaking some kinda weird jibber jabber space dialect with long words.
Smileandwave · 46-50, F
@Elandra77: thank you for pointing that out. Im aware of that and dont mind being unique. It would be wonderful for your health if you relaxed a bit...just some friendly advice. I do see the point you are trying to make tho. Very clever.
@Smileandwave: Child, unique is the only way to be! So do be that if that is your aim. in essence, we are all unique. My health, I am going on 61 and feel 22. I can ware the skirts and blouses I wore at 38-44 years of age. As I can pass as that. But thank you for the concern abut my heath. Life is fleeting. Nothing is certain and there are no guarantees.

The Republican Space Rangers in GTA IV are awesome.
Smileandwave · 46-50, F
@Elandra77: i agree. So live life to the fullest and dont was a precious second on people who get you down. Because we all have those people in our lives! Good to meet you my dear!
Vgore0304 · 31-35, F
If they start taking crap about me I would beat them up
1GHOST · M
@Vgore0304: Oh boy are your arms going to get tired ..LOL
Smileandwave · 46-50, F
@1GHOST: its the sw exercise program. Shes going to be buff!!
1GHOST · M
@Smileandwave: lol that is true !

 
Post Comment