The secret is to find, (hard at times) and cultivate good friends and then keep them. Communication , be it great or just good, is always a two way street.
Now, you have the issue of being so young. Many in the community will not speak to you for fear of being branded a predator (women) or a pervert (men) Even though--even thought many can hold a conversation and nothing of any taboo or sexual nature is EVER brought up.
But it is hard, many do NOT see social media as a commitment. But rather as a diversion. Or a joke;a lark and a place for one off lines of humor.
But those long lasting friendships CAN be had.