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Tonight I am your agony aunt. Comment with your troubles and I will give you Scrofly advice.

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Coralmist · 41-45, F

Dear Scrofly, ps, I hope this is a weekly advice column! I need it 😢😩😄
How can I stop doubting myself in everything?? Am I doing it right, am I wrong, etc...it's making my life small.

CountScrofula · 41-45, M

@Coralmist It's really hard to not do that but my way forward is to think of the worst thing that can happen, the consequences, and if it will matter in a year or so.

Shit can go wrong, catastrophically so. However it is very rare you will make a mistake so spectacular it will actually ruin your life for any point in time.

So it's not about being pessimistic and expecting the worst, but accept that you have the capacity to deal with the worst. I deal with a ton of high-risk labour situations now and that's really helped me cope with the stress of bad decisions.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@CountScrofula That makes sense. Not every mistake I might make is going to be, CATASTROPHIC. That's what anxiety does, it multiplies a fear and makes it catastrophic, when it's really the size of a mouse. Thanks Scrof🌸🦋🍀

CountScrofula · 41-45, M

@Coralmist I'll try! The big thing is anxiety will attach six "and thens" and those are just making shit up lol