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Why do people get upset or offended when the truth is told to them? I am one of them

Like say someone speaks their mind, even if their brutally blunt to them and hurt their feelings. My friend told me my drawing was pathetic and nobody is going to want to buy it when it’s crap. That hurt my feelings so bad and I didn’t even ask for her opinion. My best friends is very blunt and brutally honest and tells it like it is and doesn’t even consider people’s feelings.

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AmmieBell · 18-21, F

Because being honest doesn't mean being mean. There's no reason to being "brutally honest" rather than "compassionately honest" or "understandingly honest". People who are [i] brutally[/i] honest often are more focused on the "brutal" part than the "honest" part. It's hurtful and unnecessary.

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AmmieBell · 18-21, F

@AutismGirl18 unless she changes how she treats you, I'd suggest keeping it that way

AutismGirl18 · 18-21, F

@AmmieBell I hate her

AmmieBell · 18-21, F

@AutismGirl18 it doesn't need to be all that. At the end of the day, she won't care that much if you hate her, If she's not that concerned with feelings. Hating her hurts you more than anyone else. Just let her go. It doesn't need to be lasting anger, since that only makes it worse for you. You two clearly aren't good for eachother, your personalities don't mix, so it's okay to just go seperate ways without either one feeling the need to add hostility. That will only bring more drama.

xSiFiGamer2016x · 22-25, M

Sometimes, truth hurts. Also, it could either improve or dismantle that person, depending on the truth. For me, when people think I can't do this, such as my own drawings, I turn that into strength. My art is better than before. Trust me, a girl on here said that my artwork is uninspiring and mediocre. This was the drawing for someone else. Out of all people that did liked it, she didn't:

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xSiFiGamer2016x · 22-25, M

@AutismGirl18 I'm not on her side, but I was telling you what I think. But if you're certain that she's both rude and mean to you, I suggest you don't talk to her. Let no one think your talent is bad.

AutismGirl18 · 18-21, F

@xSiFiGamer2016x Also the girl that hates your drawing needs to not be rude. She sounds like a witch

xSiFiGamer2016x · 22-25, M

@AutismGirl18 Well, she did delete her comments. She knew it was rude, and probably avoiding being called out. I'd expose that person if they try to be disrespectful like that. You should do the same.

Cinnaman

What she told you there was NOT a fact. It was her opinion. Unless she is an art expert, she has no business talking to you like that about your art. Even if she is an art expert, she has no way of knowing what people will or won't want to buy. You've mentioned this friend before. I think she is bad news.

assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

No one wants to buy my drawings either and I've always been pretty much average at best at everything. The key to getting better is consistency. Read about any artist, many faced harsh criticism. It's just normal for people to like or dislike something. I for one appreciate an honest friend. Isn't it better knowing you can improve rather than being hyped up for nothing?
Without criticism there is no growth.
It's natural to be upset. It's fine. You have all the right to feel hurt, as long as you do yourself a favor and practise resilience!! It will help you grow! 🤗

AutismGirl18 · 18-21, F

@assemblingaknob So you’re on her side? So she has the right to say that my drawing is pathetic?

assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

@AutismGirl18 I'm not on anyone's side. 🙄 I literally don't even know y'all. The point is, life is bigger than her opinion or my opinion, so you can always delete my response if you don't find it appropriate. Just keep doing what you do. Ask multiple people for feedback. Or none at all if it doesn't sit well with you. Or just start marketing and ask for reviews. It's the most unbiased way to get criticism.

Pfuzylogic · M

That sound like a verbal assault that beat you up with. The characterization of “being honest” is just a license to be a total ahole to you.

Abstraction · 61-69, M

@Pfuzylogic This answer.

Casheyane · F

First question. How did you become best friends?

True friends bring you up. They don't kick you in the gut without good reason.

eMortal · M

She's a sociopath.

REMsleep · 41-45, F

You can be honest without being mean and sometimes the truth doesn't even need to be stated. Suppose that you have a friend that is very fat. If she asks you how she looks today do you think that you need to tell her that she needs to loose weight?

AutismGirl18 · 18-21, F

@REMsleep I cant do that. That’s mean

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