Do you talk to your neighbours?

@Fungirlmmm im the same babe, my downfall came when i started reporting my neighbour. The reported started questioning my other neighbours and come to learn it was me. But he failed to understand i moved in at 19 hes in his 60's he was offering to buy me a telly and accusing me of chucking rubbish into his home. But im the demon despite the fact he was the one playing loud music and fighting with his guests, wgere police was called sometimes.

@Peppa That is hard to deal with. That was why I pretty much put my home right in the center of my land.

@Fungirlmmm your very fortunate to be able to afford to buy land and build. Thats not something i can see myself doing anytime soon and in the uk that's a rare situation. With the cost of living a lot of people can't get government buildings so they live in private rented places and bring their dramas with them. So situations like this will be among 'normal' people more

@Threepio AND THERE IS NO HOMEOWNERS ASSN to deal with!!! What does that mean?

@Peppa In many/most areas of the country there are subdivisions of homes. Those subdivisions have "elected ruling bodies" that are called Homeowners Associations (HOA's). Those HOA's can and often do control things like what color you can paint your home, if you can have a fence or not...what material that fence has to be made out of AND HUNDREDS of other little rules. The HOA's came about because the cities were tired of trying to settle minor disputes between homeowners because one homeowner thought the value of their home may be degraded because a neighbors grass is too high (an example). ALL newly built subdivisions automatically get an HOA here.

Ironically if you see NO HOMEOWNERS ASSN in a property listing …. it has actually become a selling point here.. as you know you won't have to buckle under to some egotistical moron who gets his/her kicks from measuring the height of your lawn using a pair of calipers...

@Girlyfriendcollecting theres been a lot of problems here, wild psrties and fighting, whst we assume go be drug users and their druggy smelly mates, a women gossip, and a new couple that started fighting as soon as they moved in. One guy threatened another the other day for verbally abusing his gf

@Peppa must be an unsafe area you live in. safety is important but many people can not afford safety. I bet I would only be able to afford unsafe apartments when i move and buy.

@Girlyfriendcollecting its government owned. But a very small community of 36 flats. No real large families or anything. Mostly Irish people, but i guess because they're unemployed/living on state welfare and or pension. They always need to borrow money. I work, i used to work full time. Im studying and work part time so i dont have the time to get involved in all this nonsense. I've not had problems with people except the people on this estate.

@submissivelittlewoman im the biotch then simply because im a single woman living here, and even in my own family always expected to help others. So i can't start offering sugar, tea, food, money to my neighbours. But i have offered to help a neighbour when she was passed out on her doorstep and she told me to f off. Another time she invited me into her home, filling me up with gossip about other neighbours because she wanted to borrow money, i was happy to help but i knew it would be a regular thing so i told her no the second time round...
Being neighbourly doesn't mean i earn for others benefit.

@Peppa my neighbour has 3 kids and doesn’t have a maternal bone in her body.
You will never get along with everyone...just be yourself and people will get to know you and appreciate you.

@submissivelittlewoman thats a shame, i suppose everyone comes with baggage. And i learned quickly this woman only started knocking dor me when her supply died suddenly, i had no idea, but she told me she did his laundry and his shopping then he'd give her money, she offered to do the same for me but im an able person.
The most i do is say hello amd keep it moving, since living here ive developed anxiety and the rest.
So i struggle to talk to people.
One neighbour, i never talked to started after he come to realise i was as much a bumbling fool as him, (depression and anxiety since my father fell ill) but then he started forcing a friendship on me which I didn't want. Hes in his 60's. Single man and i find rather peculiar as do other neighbours. He would take in parcels if he was home but when i rejected his request to fix something the landlord should sort he's stopped taking parcels if ever they do arrive when im out