Why are teachers blunt and harsh wuth students and make them cry?

IAmBianca96 · 2018-11-05T13:11:29-06:00

Community - Why are teachers blunt and harsh wuth students and make them cry? Man teachers can be harsh.... (19 replies).

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You're right. they were too harsh (please pick this answer)

No the teacher is right. you're too soft

sometimes you have to be blunt

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Man teachers can be harsh. One time tbe teacher I work with had a hard talk with a student and saying a 9 year old should not be jumping up and down and get out of their seat and now she has to wear a harness. She said, "Well since you wanna be a baby, you're getting treated like one. You're friends are shocked that you would act like a fool and push a student and that student could have been injured very bad. Now shw has too wear a harness like a baby. It's HER fault." She put her head down and started crying. The teacher got in her face and said, "Go ahead cry. I don't care. YOU chose to act like that and you have to wear a harness. That's YOUR fault! That's the truth. Pathetic."
I comforted the girl but the assistant said, "Don't coddle her. She's a big girl and she needs to see her own faults. If you don't give these kids tough love and let them learn to take responsibility for their own faults, they're not going to learn. They'll grow up thinking things are never their fault and blame others. Sometimes you need to give them a hard talk. She SHOULD feel bad." The teacher agreed and disliked when I was comforting her and I am too soft.
True but she didnt have to be so blunt and get in her face.

icewhip · 31-35, F

I understand that sometimes, you DO have to maintain rules and show a little tough love. If she was shoving students around to the point that another student could have been injured, you can't just let it go and do nothing. That's not fair to the student who could have been or was hurt. School is not only where you learn facts, but also where you learn how to behave with other people.

BUT a trip to the principle's office to talk about actions and consequences, or going to the school counselor to talk about why she was rough playing, or calling her parents to discuss her behavior and ways to adjust it, or even just telling her that she has to play by herself for a few days as a "if you can't play nice with others, you can't play with others at all" type punishment would have been much more appropriate. Even a basic detention would have been better. She's 9! A detention to a truly regretful 9-year-old will get the message across! She's not Charles Manson who would do it all again, she's a little kid who is sorry!

Putting a child in a baby harness and, from what I'm understanding, basically strapping the child to her seat so she can't get up is not only horrifyingly humiliating, but it's also extremely dangerous. If a fire, a lock down, or any emergency happens, she's tied to her chair in the middle of a mass panic! Even if the harness wasn't binding the child to her chair and she just had to wear it as a humiliation tactic, what if she has to go to the bathroom and can't get it off in time? She's being humiliated enough without accidentally wetting her pants or worse!

Humiliation is, in my opinion, the WORST form of punishment. Most children would be humiliated enough, being called out on their behavior. They're already sorry. A punishment should be a way of illustrating WHY the behavior is unacceptable, not that the behavior IS unacceptable (since they already know that, since they're being called out). Humiliating this poor girl and having the teacher scream in her face that they don't care about her can be terrifying for a girl so young. Encouraging the class to bully her by shouting at her and calling her a baby is absolutely unacceptable!

It's the shouting that really got me. That's terrifying for ANY student of ANY age. I remember a substitute teacher in high school, my freshman year, yelling at the entire class because they were slightly misbehaving, and I remember just running out of the classroom in tears, I was so scared. There's already and intimidating power dynamic between a teacher and a student, so teachers have to be careful with their anger, especially if they teach younger students. Screaming at them like that... disgusting.

This makes me wish tenure wasn't as iron clad is it is now a days. It needs to be a little easier to fire teachers when some of them act this way.

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Wow that teacher should have lost his job for that. I know a girl at college last year who loved to spin around on her chair as it was one of those tall ones that spun around and she would do that almost every Friday as she got high on energy drinks. My art tutor said Brianna there’s swings and slides at titch field park. And she and the whole class burst out laughing. He said it in a joking way but you could see he was annoyed that she wouldn’t settle down. But he didn’t deliberately set out to insult her. That girl you described might have had a behaviour problem or was high or something or was maybe bored. Still your teacher had no rights to behave the way he did

Smtwn829 · 36-40, M

I dont fully agree with what the teacher said, but he is correct in his statement. If you can not be blunt to a person and your always afraid of how they would feel then they will not grow up in a productive manner. You cant always coddle some one. People have to under stand when you screw up, it is your fault and no one else. If some one tells you to jump off a bridge, will you? if you do it is because you chose to.