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Eithe · 26-30, F
I also get told constantly that I should be more assertive and confident. It’s affecting my career and my life too so I feel you!
reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
I think there are 2 types of confidence, the dumb type are confident even if they are full of shit and don't know what they are doing and there are people who will seem not confident until they have actually mastered something and then they are the best. I am like the second, every new task I wonder if I can do it, I take longer than others to get the basics but then when I get it, it takes no time I get better than everyone else. Try maybe talking to a close one about what you do to run the processes in your mind in a stress free environment or when at work try to help others with stuff you have mastered already, teaching something to someone is a good way to show yourself how much you have mastered what you know and build you confidence. good luck.
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SimplyTracie · 26-30, F
@reflectingmonkey Do you think that there might be a third type stuck somewhere between those two? That one person who lacks the skills (master) but has the confidence “to go for it”.
That can do attitude exudes confidence don’t you think? Or is that a person who is full of sh*t? 😝
That can do attitude exudes confidence don’t you think? Or is that a person who is full of sh*t? 😝
reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
@SimplyTracie yes, but talking about this 3rd type would not be useful at this moment, the slight bias in my explanation was to be supportive of our friend here.
SimplyTracie · 26-30, F
@reflectingmonkey Good point. But as you can see from her comments, she doesn’t need to be cuddled. Be straight and forthcoming. Cannot be weak.
SimplyTracie · 26-30, F
I don’t think your manager is considering other keys factors like compassion and loyalty. Caring and being loyal to your staff is the most important ingredient in my opinion. I think aggressiveness/assertiveness is low priority.
Confidence comes from knowing your job and your staff. It’s easy to lead if your staff respects you.
You asking for help shows you’re humble and that’s important too.
You go after what you want! Go!
Confidence comes from knowing your job and your staff. It’s easy to lead if your staff respects you.
You asking for help shows you’re humble and that’s important too.
You go after what you want! Go!
Alifeinterrupted · 26-30, F
@SimplyTracie Honestly, I thought she gave a fair review because with my line of work, you have to be assertive and confident to thrive..I've seen it a lot. These managers and partners are aggressive,they just want their work done..they dont have time to comfort the weak heart. I work with clients, they want assertive folks, they will literally belittle you and walk all over you if you dont really know when to put your foot down and I think thats the main reason our company is pushing us so hard
She said she've seen where i'm not being assertive and i'm not really confident and I need to build my project management skills, which quite frankly I think is the truth.I always knew I had very low self esteem... I just never knew it would ever reach the point to where its affecting my career and its KILLING me softly now the reality has kicked in.
She said she've seen where i'm not being assertive and i'm not really confident and I need to build my project management skills, which quite frankly I think is the truth.I always knew I had very low self esteem... I just never knew it would ever reach the point to where its affecting my career and its KILLING me softly now the reality has kicked in.
SimplyTracie · 26-30, F
@Alifeinterrupted Those people that needs constant motivation needs to go find another job. Those that aren’t self motivated and needs a manager to kick um in the butt should go work at McDonald’s.
If you hire good people, you just need to teach them their craft and they will bloom. My manager knows how to hire good people - he hired me. 😂😂😂
If you hire good people, you just need to teach them their craft and they will bloom. My manager knows how to hire good people - he hired me. 😂😂😂
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LyricalOne · F
Take charge and be a leader. Sounds like your manager believes you can do it.
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I have the same problem.
Love4All · 56-60, F
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