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Ever notice how you have one view/experience of a person and someone else's will differ?

Some people expect everyone to see them the same why?
Some find sarcasm funny others don't.
Some people find bluntness, refreshing others find it off putting.
Some people find jokey personalities endearing others malignant.
Some people take kindness as a warm caring gesture where it can make others be on guard!

No-one has the right to tell you who you are but they are entitled to their feelings of how you made them feel. Whether you take that on is down to you.
frequentlyme · 70-79, M
It's, I think, in many instances about communicating your message. I know I've read any number of questions/statements, thought I knew the message being sent, and responded only to find out I was way off base.

Communication is a two way street; but in my view, it's more about the person clearly stating their message. How can I (or anyone) receive the message as intended, if the message is somehow not clear?
Peppa · 31-35, F
[@657416,frequentlyme] I think in this instance you've received me very well. Probably because you've gotten to know me or it's just straight to the point. I can vaguely remember you and I discussing one post I made but the subject wasn't so clear. If you had of been sarcastic or completely dismissive or ironic I may have not entertained expressing myself on such a delicate topic. You were understanding and open to my opinion.
frequentlyme · 70-79, M
[@305137,Justlilyg] Yep, I try, when not sure, to restate the question and ask if what I received is actually the message sent. I do sometimes though, get a message so wrong that I reply incorrectly/inappropriately. This whole thing (communicating via only the written word) isn't easy. No body language, no eye contact, etc.
PeanutsauntieP1982 · 36-40, F
Wow! Thanks! That's something I hadn't really thought about... I'm not changing, (I like me, lol), but it's so true. Once I had a nightmare that my hair was growing so fast that I had to use a lawnmower to cut it. (My hair grows fast.) The next morning I was telling my neighbor about it, and she said it sounded like a dream come true to her. (Her hair hardly grows at all.) It just serves to point out what you said, what's attractive/a dream come true may be very unattractive/ a nightmare to someone else.
Exactly. That's why you caught me so off guard. I still have no idea what even happened back there
[@305137,Justlilyg] I'm glad your aware of your behaviour
Peppa · 31-35, F
[@656163,Mushroomfaerie] we've both learnt something about ourselves today, you come across blunt and insensitive at times, and I don't address and ignore things to give people the benefit of the doubt when perhaps if I wanted a long winded debate I could tell them straight away to prevent hurting their feelings later on down the line.
[@305137,Justlilyg] exactly
FattyMcFatts · 46-50, M
Are you telling us that everybody is different?
Peppa · 31-35, F
[@688789,FattyMcFatts] is that what you got from that?
FattyMcFatts · 46-50, M
Kind of. I also got that reading stuff leaves a lot of interpretation as opposed to talking in person.
Peppa · 31-35, F
[@688789,FattyMcFatts] big time!
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Did it take you 26 years to come to that conclusion?
Peppa · 31-35, F
[@479586,DeineMutter] unfortunately for you...no!
oihaoiha · 26-30, F
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
Yes. There’s someone here who I would love to scream “fraud!!!!”.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
[@467717,Gangstress] I want to see how it plays out.
Gangstress · 36-40, F
[@11509,Quietrumble] lol they always get found out
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
[@467717,Gangstress] indeed! 🍿

 
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