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Ever notice how you have one view/experience of a person and someone else's will differ?

Some people expect everyone to see them the same why?
Some find sarcasm funny others don't.
Some people find bluntness, refreshing others find it off putting.
Some people find jokey personalities endearing others malignant.
Some people take kindness as a warm caring gesture where it can make others be on guard!

No-one has the right to tell you who you are but they are entitled to their feelings of how you made them feel. Whether you take that on is down to you.
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Exactly. That's why you caught me so off guard. I still have no idea what even happened back there
Peppa · 31-35, F
@MushroomFaerie well I just expressed my opinion based upon what has happened between us through our various interactions. You're not the only person this has happened with and certainly won't be the last.
Much like with @FattyMcFatts and @SW-User they felt the need to respond with a question stating the obvious to someone else they will read it and think nothing of it but my first reaction was, Well why ask me if you already know where I'm coming from. You have done a similar thing.
As you see I've responded but it's not leading to a conversation because I just can't be bothered.
Does that make things a little clearer.
But there are other people that have responded and that could be viewed as agreeing with me but I also haven't decided to converse with them as the type of response doesn't allow for a dialogue.
We're all different. I get that. And we don't all need to be friends, I'm civil towards you I don't go around attacking you, slating you, I let you say your piece and move on.
@Peppa your acting like I've attacked you, it's weird. Your the one with all the words. If you don't like 'me' this random on the internet then why didn't you just ignore me?
Peppa · 31-35, F
@MushroomFaerie I ignore the responses I don't want to respond to.
I don't know you well enough to say I don't like you, but I'm entitled to not like a particular response you give.
Are you telling me you don't have a similar experience here with other members, or are you just downplaying this because I've brought this to your attention?
@Peppa I was unaware there was a problem at all until you went off on me out of nowhere
Peppa · 31-35, F
@MushroomFaerie fair enough. Well I can't point the finger and say I dislike you specifically. I've just not liked some of your responses enough to want to respond. And I can say you are not the only person I've felt that way towards. But when you expressed your feelings earlier it made me feel reluctant to warm to you due to this.
@Peppa okay well talking to you tonight has been interesting that's all I can say
Peppa · 31-35, F
@MushroomFaerie indeed it has. Probably where honesty isn't the best policy.
@Peppa honesty is always the best policy, maybe that's why you perceive me so negativity. Iam actually a caring and sensitive person but your too busy making judgements to even see me as another human being. If I had ever offended you you could have let me know earlier and I would have apologised but you waited until you blew and it made no sense. Take into account that I also have feelings and these other people you've admitted to judging also probaly have feelings, not just you.
Peppa · 31-35, F
@MushroomFaerie I do see you as another person which is why I don't understand why you have responded to me the way you had done.
We all come her as a form of escape from something and to have a good time. And it's always amazes me when someone feels the need to trod all over another person. You may think I have done that today. But I let certain things go because as I said what is the point. I didn't want to fake a feeling I couldn't muster up for you. That's just not me. And rather leave you hanging on something that you may have felt concerned about I wanted you to know why I specifically felt the way I did towards you. Whether you were aware of it or not.

And I didn't judge those people I interrupted what they said based upon what was written.
I don't know if you read through my other interactions here but @frequentlyme has had a similar situation and it was resolved. It may happen again but I know that he doesn't mean it maliciously.
And through talking we can both learn something.
Saying something like "did it take you 26 years to come to that conclusion" could be seen as rude or a genuine interest. But given how this member talks every now and then I took it as the former. And I responded in a less than approachable way.
We all do it. But knowing I've done this I wouldn't expect sympathy from this member on another post. Because I'm aware of my behaviour.
@Peppa I'm glad your aware of your behaviour
Peppa · 31-35, F
@MushroomFaerie we've both learnt something about ourselves today, you come across blunt and insensitive at times, and I don't address and ignore things to give people the benefit of the doubt when perhaps if I wanted a long winded debate I could tell them straight away to prevent hurting their feelings later on down the line.
@Peppa exactly