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Ever notice how you have one view/experience of a person and someone else's will differ?

Some people expect everyone to see them the same why?
Some find sarcasm funny others don't.
Some people find bluntness, refreshing others find it off putting.
Some people find jokey personalities endearing others malignant.
Some people take kindness as a warm caring gesture where it can make others be on guard!

No-one has the right to tell you who you are but they are entitled to their feelings of how you made them feel. Whether you take that on is down to you.

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frequentlyme · 70-79, M

It's, I think, in many instances about communicating your message. I know I've read any number of questions/statements, thought I knew the message being sent, and responded only to find out I was way off base.

Communication is a two way street; but in my view, it's more about the person clearly stating their message. How can I (or anyone) receive the message as intended, if the message is somehow not clear?

Peppa · 31-35, F

@frequentlyme I think in this instance you've received me very well. Probably because you've gotten to know me or it's just straight to the point. I can vaguely remember you and I discussing one post I made but the subject wasn't so clear. If you had of been sarcastic or completely dismissive or ironic I may have not entertained expressing myself on such a delicate topic. You were understanding and open to my opinion.

frequentlyme · 70-79, M

@Peppa Yep, I try, when not sure, to restate the question and ask if what I received is actually the message sent. I do sometimes though, get a message so wrong that I reply incorrectly/inappropriately. This whole thing (communicating via only the written word) isn't easy. No body language, no eye contact, etc.