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How can u raise your child to be confident?

Any advice, things that work?
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
Give them chores and let them have hobbies and when they do a good job and finish praise them for it. We get confident by mastering things.
Dan193 · 31-35, M
@cherokeepatti good point
celine211 · 22-25, F
Your probably not gonna read all this but anyway here are some things i think are important don't know if this is what you were asking for.
>Never criticize them(like- your good for nothing..etc) and bring them down like some parents do.

>Give them all the love and security you can give.

>Do keep them healthy- as in food and exercise which makes it less likely for body-image issues in the future= more confidence and their healthy.

>Never push them towards where you want them just be their "guide" and show them whats available for them. Let them play with what they want as kids, if its a girl let her wear what she likes(obviously appropriate) when she stars growing, it doesn't mean you aren't allowed to give your opinion but let it be just that

>Importantly YOU have to be confident cause children get a lot from their parents since they are in most cases their role models. And by watching you be confident they learn from observation what it is to be confident. Its an actual thing in psychology- Observational learning and children do it a lot

>Teach them from a very young age that material things alone aren't going to make you happy.

>Help them socialize when they're kids(dance class, football/soccer etc), don't push them when they enter there teenage years cause it can get annoying or make them feel bad.

>>You have to do a lot of work when they are young enough when they enter or about to enter their teenage years just stop pushing them and butting in and slowly give them freedom in doing things don't be too strict not letting them go anywhere and stuff. I am speaking from experience here Do not shelter them too much they need to learn about the outside world cause when they come of age then they wouldn't know what do and maybe get scared even by the idea of that shelter being gone.

>Teach them from a young age(in kid terms) that being who you are is important and to not let themselves be pushed by others. You see how kids/teenager and even adults try to please everybody else and be what they want want them to be, look what they want them to look like etc.

Teach them good values/morals to go by. Be kind, help others etc




P.s I hope it won't tell me that this post has been deleted when I hit post cause i'll be mad af 😂
Dan193 · 31-35, M
@celine211 Yes I'll have to be more aware of my image and the energy I emit. I've been trying to improve that for some time, but it's very difficult when you've been acting in a way most of your life. And yes I figured out the root of my insecurities - my parents. Dad was abusive all my life and mother was over sheltering or overprotective ..weird combination, but whatever. Now I need to move forward and try to repair some of that along the way.
In part that's what got me interested in this, because I wouldn't want to expose my kids to that in any way ..through ignorance or just by being unaware of it.
And I'll check the psychological study right now. Thaanks.
celine211 · 22-25, F
@Dan193 Get some self help books and msg me if you need anything i'll be happy to help:)
Dan193 · 31-35, M
@celine211 I appreciate it )
praise them and give them positive reinforcement when they succeed. when they fail, give them encouragement to strive to do better the next time.
i have four kids..... i have had alot of practice. LOL
Dan193 · 31-35, M
@SheCallsMeCrushDaddy What about secrets? My parents always used to tell me to not have secrets from them and always tell them everything. And whenever I wouldnt want to share something with them, they'd try to pull it out of me. Though my sister would always tell them everything.
So I don't know, what's better: letting them have their secrets or trying to work towards absolute openness?
i can see the benefits of both ways.
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Dan193 · 31-35, M
@waleskinder alright, thx
getmeouttahere · 36-40, F
Distract them from pop culture and all that with character building activities.
VioletShadows · 51-55, F
Let them know they are loved all the time for solid reasons. Like good personality traits. Encourage good decision making by setting the example, and get in the habit of talking not only about how to handle their potential challenges, but how you've handled yours. Prepare them for life ahead of time when you can, be there to praise them when it goes well, and comfort them when it doesn't. Most of all, teach them to know who they are. If they do good to others and know character is the most important thing, and you keep supporting that, no one can take that away.
Socialclutz · 36-40, M
Get involved in a lot of community activities with positive minded ppl
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