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celine211 路 22-25, F
Your probably not gonna read all this but anyway here are some things i think are important don't know if this is what you were asking for.
>Never criticize them(like- your good for nothing..etc) and bring them down like some parents do.
>Give them all the love and security you can give.
>Do keep them healthy- as in food and exercise which makes it less likely for body-image issues in the future= more confidence and their healthy.
>Never push them towards where you want them just be their "guide" and show them whats available for them. Let them play with what they want as kids, if its a girl let her wear what she likes(obviously appropriate) when she stars growing, it doesn't mean you aren't allowed to give your opinion but let it be just that
>Importantly YOU have to be confident cause children get a lot from their parents since they are in most cases their role models. And by watching you be confident they learn from observation what it is to be confident. Its an actual thing in psychology- Observational learning and children do it a lot
>Teach them from a very young age that material things alone aren't going to make you happy.
>Help them socialize when they're kids(dance class, football/soccer etc), don't push them when they enter there teenage years cause it can get annoying or make them feel bad.
>>You have to do a lot of work when they are young enough when they enter or about to enter their teenage years just stop pushing them and butting in and slowly give them freedom in doing things don't be too strict not letting them go anywhere and stuff. I am speaking from experience here Do not shelter them too much they need to learn about the outside world cause when they come of age then they wouldn't know what do and maybe get scared even by the idea of that shelter being gone.
>Teach them from a young age(in kid terms) that being who you are is important and to not let themselves be pushed by others. You see how kids/teenager and even adults try to please everybody else and be what they want want them to be, look what they want them to look like etc.
Teach them good values/morals to go by. Be kind, help others etc
P.s I hope it won't tell me that this post has been deleted when I hit post cause i'll be mad af 馃槀
>Never criticize them(like- your good for nothing..etc) and bring them down like some parents do.
>Give them all the love and security you can give.
>Do keep them healthy- as in food and exercise which makes it less likely for body-image issues in the future= more confidence and their healthy.
>Never push them towards where you want them just be their "guide" and show them whats available for them. Let them play with what they want as kids, if its a girl let her wear what she likes(obviously appropriate) when she stars growing, it doesn't mean you aren't allowed to give your opinion but let it be just that
>Importantly YOU have to be confident cause children get a lot from their parents since they are in most cases their role models. And by watching you be confident they learn from observation what it is to be confident. Its an actual thing in psychology- Observational learning and children do it a lot
>Teach them from a very young age that material things alone aren't going to make you happy.
>Help them socialize when they're kids(dance class, football/soccer etc), don't push them when they enter there teenage years cause it can get annoying or make them feel bad.
>>You have to do a lot of work when they are young enough when they enter or about to enter their teenage years just stop pushing them and butting in and slowly give them freedom in doing things don't be too strict not letting them go anywhere and stuff. I am speaking from experience here Do not shelter them too much they need to learn about the outside world cause when they come of age then they wouldn't know what do and maybe get scared even by the idea of that shelter being gone.
>Teach them from a young age(in kid terms) that being who you are is important and to not let themselves be pushed by others. You see how kids/teenager and even adults try to please everybody else and be what they want want them to be, look what they want them to look like etc.
Teach them good values/morals to go by. Be kind, help others etc
P.s I hope it won't tell me that this post has been deleted when I hit post cause i'll be mad af 馃槀
Dan193 路 31-35, M
@celine211 I've read it all. That's the least I can do to thank you for your time xD Also that's a ton of good tips. I liked a lot the point about observational learning. Actually that's what made me ask this question in the first place. I was suspecting that could be a factor and I wanted some other people's input, since I'm not the picture of confidence myself. So I guess I'll just have to work on that and fast, for thier sake. Thankyou,
celine211 路 22-25, F
@Dan193 Glad i was of little help. Yeah kids pick on everything you do both good and bad they're always watching so watch how you behave and treat others.You don't only teach by words but most importantly by action.
I think you should work on your confidence..get to the bottom of why your not all that confident. Bad childhood experiences? negative-self views? parents? am i happy with who i am?...etc ask yourself questions.
Oh and if you're interested in observational learning check out Bandura's psychological theory on the topic.
I think you should work on your confidence..get to the bottom of why your not all that confident. Bad childhood experiences? negative-self views? parents? am i happy with who i am?...etc ask yourself questions.
Oh and if you're interested in observational learning check out Bandura's psychological theory on the topic.
Dan193 路 31-35, M
@celine211 Yes I'll have to be more aware of my image and the energy I emit. I've been trying to improve that for some time, but it's very difficult when you've been acting in a way most of your life. And yes I figured out the root of my insecurities - my parents. Dad was abusive all my life and mother was over sheltering or overprotective ..weird combination, but whatever. Now I need to move forward and try to repair some of that along the way.
In part that's what got me interested in this, because I wouldn't want to expose my kids to that in any way ..through ignorance or just by being unaware of it.
And I'll check the psychological study right now. Thaanks.
In part that's what got me interested in this, because I wouldn't want to expose my kids to that in any way ..through ignorance or just by being unaware of it.
And I'll check the psychological study right now. Thaanks.