Just came across the most shocking nonsense I've ever heard coming from a man

He must have been a Uvalde cop...

That's just sexist BS. Why shouldn't the woman put her life on the line to protect her husband instead?

The real answer is that nobody goes down there bc it's stupid. Point your shotgun down the stairwell while one of your kids calls 9-1-1. He's right that men's lives shouldn't be disposable, but as you mentioned, it's not "everyone for themself"; instead, it should be "we're all in this together."

I'd like to think that most men are protective and inclined to defend their partners when necessary, but I'm not sure how that's supposed to couple with feminism which seeks to remove gender norms. If the expectation is that women can do what men can, why can't a woman defend her family instead?

So, for me it's a simple thing. I get up and head downstairs while telling the wife to get the kids and her cell phone. Call 911 and lock herself and the kids in the bathroom. Do not come out unless it's me telling you it's all clear.

My responsibility is to delay as long as possible the threat from reaching my family (so help can arrive) or to neutralize the threat. My size and strength makes me the best choice to do this. My spouse's responsibility is to gather and protect the children.

It’s all this equity rubbish. Men and women are the same, so men can get pregnant and women can protect the family by taking a bullet. 🤷‍♀️

He is probably the home intruder in this scenario

But he's right, it should not be expected that you should put yourself in danger for somebody else just because they are female, that's sexist. If he chooses to do it that is his prerogative and it appears the man in question exercised those rights.

Sadly, anyone can reproduce but clearly some are not meant to. If you no protective instinct then you are not meant to start a family. Sounds more like he’s making excuses for being a coward.

I think theres alot of that here

I’m 62. Literally none of the above makes sense. You support and protect until you’re dead.

It’s not complicated.

I have found that women are braver than men.

Women and children first when possible. I'll even die for our chihuahua fuck it

I understand what you’re saying, but I can honestly say, protection is not what I’ve sought in a partner. Often, men who see their role as "protecting" their wives also want to control her. That’s not someone with whom I’d be compatible.
Incidentally, many women who feel that they don’t need a man aren’t saying they wouldn’t want one. But "needing" implies you can’t get along without one, and those are the women who end up with abusers, because they believe they have to settle or be alone.