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Have you ever tried a drastic change, and it wasnt the right choice?

Guys, van life single mom style isnt gonna work. We're going to finish out our trip out west and then find a place to settle. I may resume these adventures later in life once my son is doing his own thing, but for now, I admit, I cant do this.
You tried and know you love the lifestyle and now you know you need to put it on hold. I think it is the right choice for you when your son is older. You would always wonder what if, if you didnt try.
@RebelFox Finish up this trip and see everything you want to see and do and then settle down. By the time you are ready to hit the road, I might be out there too. 😁
RebelFox · 36-40, F
@Spracer it's definitely a bummer because i could live this way forever, but its not fair if my son isnt safe or I'm not able to provide enough. He's most important. And heck yeah we aint stoppin now! Lots more to see. And I'm also glad to just be far away from "home".

Its gonna be much more simple with one or two adults. Im excited for you hun because this shit has helped us grow a great deal.
@RebelFox I know, he has to come first and being a great mom you are doing what you have to for him. You are young and have plenty of time for you own adventures. I know, I cant wait to get out there and experience what you have.
Pretzel · 61-69, M
don't consider it a failure

consider it an experience. very few choices are permanent.

you've enjoyed some things, you've learned some things. remember them :)
RebelFox · 36-40, F
@Pretzel Definitely learning so much. No regrets, just not the best lifestyle for single mommin. Its about safety and health, otherwise were great. But those things are important.
Pretzel · 61-69, M
@RebelFox you've given your son some interesting memories in the meantime. but you're absolutely right - you guys need to be safe. and he probably needs something semi-steady to socialize with kids his own age (although that can be a nightmare too).

you rock OF! keep up the good work.
RebelFox · 36-40, F
@Pretzel for sure! We are gonna to finish out our adventure first though. I am determined that we see as much as possible 🖤
summersong · F
It’s just a recalibration. Two thirds of parenting is being flexible 💚
Pretzel · 61-69, M
@summersong and the other 1/3 is...oh hell who has time for THAT
RebelFox · 36-40, F
@summersong yeah. He's sick and I'm just understanding I cant do every single thing alone. Its not safe or healthy for us 🖤
SW-User
You do what is best for you and your son..no judgment ❤️
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
I can imagine That would be hard to do with a child
RebelFox · 36-40, F
@Jenny1234 we're having a blast but anything extra that pops up is over the limit.
At least you took that risk, that chance, no regrets, just memories and adventures. Well done for giving it a go and good luck when you feel up to trying again. I for one both envy and admire you for having the balls to give it a go. 👏👏👏👏👏👏❤
RebelFox · 36-40, F
@Mindfulness No regrets! And well keep going as far as we can. And I'll be back out here one day. I need almost nothing, but kids are a lot of work as it is.
@RebelFox And they have to be your priority. Well done for living our dreams for us. ❤
SW-User
But it's a good thing that you tried it. It's not like it was some half-ass thing you did for someone else - this was for yourself. You have tried it, so now you know more what to expect and are better prepared should there be a next time. 👍
SW-User
Settling sounds good, being safe and secure, i put those above adventure personally. All my changes are miniscule to alleviate tedium. All the best to you and your son.
Rickg · 31-35, M
What type of can do you use and how do you make it livable?
Rickg · 31-35, M
Can you find places to park, drain the septic tank?@RebelFox
RebelFox · 36-40, F
@Rickg Thats only part of the issue with living this way. Parking is a daily ordeal, finding water, dumping, propane, maintience, cleaning and regular life shit while living mostly outside. All that is fine. Its the safety factor. We keep getting hassled and when one of gets sick its hell.
Rickg · 31-35, M
Yea
That’s what I was worried about
I’d keep having a day job so cash flow wouldn’t be a problem
But I can’t think of anywhere that would let me park long term, or hook up for any power, water, waste
I know there’s trailer parks near where I live but they have limited space and I think they might only be seasonal @RebelFox
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
When my Mom died I felt I needed some kind of change and I shaved my head -- never again.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
You have total cred for getting out there and trying something different. The world is full of people with big "plans", but they're usually just talking the talk. You walked the walk. Best of luck in your next steps--I know you will kill it, no matter what you choose.
RebelFox · 36-40, F
@uncalled4 We can keep going hopefully another 5-6 months until we find the right place and i will do a smaller build for later. The road is a harsh place to raise a kid though...
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@RebelFox That you have the time to look around is beyond valuable.
RebelFox · 36-40, F
@uncalled4 Yes 🖤 I put it in the budget because i definitely didnt have any solid plans. We just needed to go. After a few months now I'm just missing community. Who knows what we find out west. There are caravans out there. Who knows 😂 but yeah its sweet to take our time 🖤
Grvstu · 70-79, F
Oh my! Kids need a home base and stability
SW-User
I hope he feels better.
Kwek00 · 41-45, M
Good luck 🐣
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RebelFox · 36-40, F
@Stereoguy Yeah I end up doing a lot of cooking which is fine, but still... I watch you guys with your huge rvs and I look at these campgrounds full of trees and narrow roads and i dont know how you do it!
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RebelFox · 36-40, F
@RogueLoner I mean we are kinda fragile creatures compared to the other inhabitants of this planet 😂 I think its great you pushed your limits! Thats half of figuring shit out is just doing it. And camping in the cold sucks man 😂
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RebelFox · 36-40, F
@RogueLoner thats why I'm out here now. Dementia is coming 😂

 
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