Whelp… just had a total breakdown/flip out

This is terribly sad. Its an addiction.
But he cant see it.
Its his safe place to be so he doesnt have to feel or think about the things he should be dealing with (whatever they are).

He needs help. Professional help before it destroys everything important in his life .

Its as bad as substance abuse, gambling etc.
If its consuming his time so much he cant be with his family at all, or it takes over real conversations ...then its a legit compulsive repetitve behaivour that has become an obsession .

I wishi could give you advice on this , but i tried to help my ex with his addictions , and failed .
In fact , it only made him more focused and withdrawn ...and angrier.

My fear for you is , this might be just one visable addiction, and he might be hiding more .

Its very hard to help someone with addiction. You cant face them front on or they dig deeper into it to stay emotionally safe.

But he does need help . Or his life , his family ...will eventually break .

Im so sorry that you are standing on the outside of this trying to hold hold it all together ...and probably having to make excuses to your kids to cover for his behaivour .

It truly sounds like hes in crisis. The more he spends time in this mindset , the more time it takes up, the more it creeps into normal life ....the deeper he is drowning.
There is something he is escaping from .

And unless he makes the decision to face it, or start dealing with it, or even open up and share his burden ...his denial is only going to consume him till somwthing crucial breaks .

Im so sorry.🥺😔

My wife went through a hoarding buying phase. It was very challenging

not to take away from you i'm in a boat like yourself on the breakdown part think i wasted my life being at my job for 5 years fucking up the chance with a girl i was into years ago haveing to do with my fathers death even thow he has been dead for 6 years

not sure why he does talk to you much

your gorgeous fuck the free room giveaways you should be taken to bed

Sounds like hard work ☹️. Every time my husband goes away I take the opportunity to bin a bunch of stuff. I hate clutter.

I’m sorry. That is so maddening. It was probably a good thing to let it out even if it was a strong reaction. I hope that it got his attention.

Rooms with free giveaways? Rooms online?

I agree with OogieBoogie and think it's an addiction he's going to need help for.

I'm sorry. 🙄😔🤗🤗 Here if you need to vent more.
Always.
Kelly.

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this ...

Is it like scams or something? Also as most people can attest that after you've been married or together for a while one partner or the other just seems to get bored with the situation. It is not your fault

That is rough… I’m sorry. Those free giveaway things are so addictive, by design.

This is heavy 😞

My father has that problem as well. For my dad, I think he is somewhat brain damaged. He doesn't shut up about repetitive shit even if the entire room makes it clear to him that they don't want to hear.

Tell him, not us
He should know so he change (if)

You need to scold him

What is that?

I am sorry you are dealing with this. I understand it. When my husband is manic he goes through phases like this.