Whelp… just had a total breakdown/flip out

This is terribly sad. Its an addiction.
But he cant see it.
Its his safe place to be so he doesnt have to feel or think about the things he should be dealing with (whatever they are).

He needs help. Professional help before it destroys everything important in his life .

Its as bad as substance abuse, gambling etc.
If its consuming his time so much he cant be with his family at all, or it takes over real conversations ...then its a legit compulsive repetitve behaivour that has become an obsession .

I wishi could give you advice on this , but i tried to help my ex with his addictions , and failed .
In fact , it only made him more focused and withdrawn ...and angrier.

My fear for you is , this might be just one visable addiction, and he might be hiding more .

Its very hard to help someone with addiction. You cant face them front on or they dig deeper into it to stay emotionally safe.

But he does need help . Or his life , his family ...will eventually break .

Im so sorry that you are standing on the outside of this trying to hold hold it all together ...and probably having to make excuses to your kids to cover for his behaivour .

It truly sounds like hes in crisis. The more he spends time in this mindset , the more time it takes up, the more it creeps into normal life ....the deeper he is drowning.
There is something he is escaping from .

And unless he makes the decision to face it, or start dealing with it, or even open up and share his burden ...his denial is only going to consume him till somwthing crucial breaks .

Im so sorry.🥺😔