Let's talk about the difference between nudity and nakedness

I do get aroused for a moment every time I see a woman in her birthday suit (again), but that feeling passes quite quickly if I don't act upon it and then something much better happens. To not make this post too long, I'll limit it to a woman undressing for my eyes only.

After the brief sexual excitement wears off, it turns into a gesture of trust and comfort to let me see her full, real, natural self including all her imperfections. The first time is going to be awkward for us both, but that's good too. It raises the bar for embarrassment and fear of judgment ever after, helping to show more of all that emotionally too.

To me it feels underrated how nice it can be to get (partially) naked while talking about various topics, of course after building a sufficient level of trust, comfort and interest while fully dressed first, without it automatically leading to an orgasm one way or another.

I'm not going to pretend I'm against sexualizing it sometimes, but we'd be missing out if we didn't enjoy the other effects of nakedness too. (Similar to not pausing to appreciate the underwear stage while rushing towards full nudity.)

I've got a lot more nuance and details on this, but this post seems way too long already for the average reader. So I'll just end with saying it's been a while since I had a friend who felt the same way and I miss that.

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TheHammer · M

You guys really think about all this when a chick is getting naked ?
Im just hoping she doesn't drop her underwear where the dog can get it.

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Akimbo75 · 46-50, F

@TheHammer And now we know the real reason you call yourself the Hammer

TheHammer · M

@Boeing
You should try it. It's a bit loud, but it's fast..gives you time for other thigs

TheHammer · M

@Akimbo75
That's right!!!! 😊

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

I have never considered that aspect in real life in a social situation. When I speak about paintings or photographs, i call the figure as being nude if it is artful, and naked, if it is more of a snapshot. Some supreme court justice once is said to have remarked to the question of what is porn, i cannot define it, but I know it when i see it.

Boeing · 36-40

...and there is also the nakedness in the degrees and layers we let another see our minds, our woundings, our desires, our passions, etc, and I find that too an intimate dance to getting naked. Even before or simultaneously with the physical body..

NerdyPotato ·

@Boeing absolutely! That was one of the things I had in mind but couldn't fit in anymore without getting into a level of detail that would turn it into an entire book.

Boeing · 36-40

@NerdyPotato I was between typing that which I typed or say something like "who cares about the average reader" ;))

NerdyPotato ·

@Boeing true. Maybe I'll expand on it later, but I'll see if other aspects come up in comments first.

AdmiralPrune · 46-50, M

Boobies.

HootyTheNightOwl

@AdmiralPrune

Harmonium1923 · 56-60, M

That’s well said. A few times a year, perhaps, I have the chance to be naked with one of my female friends, in a nonsexual way. It feels open and comfortable, and very natural after just a few moments.

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