I am a 21-year-old woman, and I don’t know how to do makeup(i dont mean to be pick me girl)—maybe I can only use powder or cushion and lipstick, but I mean real makeup, the kind that truly looks like makeup.
I can’t dress up in a way that’s too feminine. Even though I really want to.
Actually, there are some factors behind all of this, but never mind.
I feel like I don’t deserve to feel beautiful or to do things like that. Even just wearing lipstick, sometimes I feel like it’s too much… If I already put on lipstick, I usually end up wiping it off, even though it’s not even that much. My friend sometimes says:
“Why do you look so pale?” And I reply, “No, I already put on lipstick.”
Sometimes i wanna be like them.. But inside me telling me 'I dont deserve it, everybody will judge you
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Why do you feel like you don't deserve good things? If it's the mindset that is the problem, then surely the problem isn't limited to makeup.
If you let yourself miss out because you're afraid, you will continue to remain that way.
You don't have to like what everybody else like. You don't have to be like everyone else.
What you need to be is who you could become if you allow yourself to improve and be braver. If makeup is something you want to learn, then don't be afraid to look like a clown at first. Try and fail. Try and fail. Till you reach the part of try and succeed. In this world, it all comes down to what you decide to do and be and if you have the guts and effort to do and be that.
And yes, I realize that this perspective comes from the point of view of someone privileged.
My mom pushed me to learn makeup. She liked it. In the end, I ended up liking it too but I wear it differently from hers. Because I am my own person and I can do that. I learned what she knows, then I improvised to get the result I am comfortable to wear on my own skin. It's the way to be better.
The problem is, since I was a kid, or younger, I've been told that I'm ugly by my father... If he's angry, he calls my face like a devil... Or something like that..
But older people tell me that I'm pretty..
If I do make up.. I'm just honestly scared what my father will say..
But now I'm a woman.. My parents call me pretty just for not wearing make up..
@Bluebell1 it's heavy to live witg parents like that.. who pull you down and doesn't wanna support you grow your confidence.. I had similar experience and only when I left home do I really feel better and much more confident.. I hope someday things get better for you and you wear the things that makes you feel good 🫂
