I made a joke years ago to a friend about a topic. Havnt spoken to this friend in years but then we hung out a couple months back, and in a passing

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conversation I realized they confused the punchline of this joke with a personal story I told them about my childhood. I let it slide bc I didn’t want to ruin the positive energy we were having, especially after not seeing each other for so long. But the fact that they have the joke and my personal story mixed up actually does bother me. I’ve been debating if it’s worth bringing it up to them and fixing these ideas as two separate ones in their mind. — The thing is though is 1.) it does put me in a vulnerable position bc the childhood story is associated w some not so happy times in my life. 2.) It would be long paragraph to send them in text and I don’t want to come off as “too much”. Plus it would sorta be out of the blue 3.) I don’t see them often so is it necessary— you see, that last one is a tough one bc I Don’t see them often, but I also don’t like ppl thinking false information about me…Pursuing this does put me at risk of #1 and #2….. I know I will see them again in October but I also don’t want the in person moment to be ruined w a low energy topic so I am thinking if I do do it then it should be sooner than later over text.

I’m not sure what to do. Should I take the risk of being “too much” for the sake of clarity? What would you do?

OlderSometimesWiser · F

If there’s no other way for you to put the matter to rest within yourself, I’d bring it up when you next see them but in a casual way. Like, “I know this may sound silly to you but remember that joke we talked about the last time we met……”

Keep in mind though, they might feel that your bringing it up again could mean that the joke actually does have does have something to do with your childhood story. Even if it’s a false impression, it’s still possible.