WAS IT MY FAULT? I don't really have someone to talk to bout this and I found this site so...

SW-User

You knew it was going to upset her and you did it anyway. So yeah.

SnailTeeth · 36-40

She's being overly rigid in her implicit/unspoken expectations.
You're fine. You might not be friends anymore, or ever again, and it will likely be traumatic if it's a big change.
But your feelings just need to be processed, acknowledged, and let to settle within.
It's just a rite of passage.
Persist in mending the bridge, but don't nag, don't let this devolve into aggression/depression; be calm in your approach. Loving. Patient.
They might've just had some bad times in the past, and are now existing in that loop.
Sometimes life hits us, and we didn't even know we were bleeding out.

Teirdalin · 31-35

You shooould have said "You know what, you should really dance with my friend instead." You basically had her perfect night right infront of her.

SW-User

You are not at fault, you're all young, naive and silly so these things are going to happen. Heck some adults act this way as well. So relax, you are not at fault but your friend is hurting because she feels rejected by her crush and you are the target of her ire because her crush clearly likes you.

That said it's never a good idea to coddle peoples insecurities so if you are going to attempt to salvage your friendship, you are going to have to be frank and stern (not mean) with her. It's not your fault that the boy is attracted to you.

thewindupbirdchronicles · 46-50, M

Nope, not your fault. I read you didn't disrespect your friend, were thinking of her, and some like to think you control attraction and emotions, but they are what they are.... (you do have a choice in response, but so do they... and some guy they only had attraction to if they are letting come between friendship, I say is on them...) but people choose the easier answer often. 20 years ago without social media and strangers proving their own point of view, projected upon your story, was actually easier than now.

ServantOfTheGoddess · 61-69, M

Have you tried to reach out to your friend? If not I think you should.

I agree with the people who think you were at fault. You wrote
[quote]as crazy as I am, I entertained him. We danced together[/quote]
You didn't need to do that.

And you wrote
[quote]my mind was just on my friend the whole time, thinking about how she feels[/quote]
You could have acted on how you knew she felt, but you ignored it.

However, I think if you tell her you were in the wrong, and that you are not into this guy, she might forgive you.

Fawma123 · 46-50, M

Yeah its your fault

Spoiledbrat · F

Probably yes. You should have shown loyalty and respect.

Echambers101 · 26-30, M

Did you explain the situation to her

Zeusdelight · 61-69, M

Yep

Lilnonames · F

It's his fault as he's a player