Why do men only befriend you if they think they can form a romantic relationship with you?
Why do they though?
18-21, F
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ViciDraco · 36-40, M
This is definitely not all men. And counter to what some people say, some men find it easier to be friends with women than other men.
Why does it seem like we all want to pursue a romantic relationship with you? Often times it is because we are friends. We know who your are. We like spending time with you. We do greatly desire sex. If we can get it from someone we already know we like and we can spend time with that saves a lot of pain and effort from trying to meet someone we don't know for that purpose.
If a male friend is a real friend, he'll remain so after sex has been taken off the table, but most straight men are going to try at least a couple times if they don't have someone else. If he flakes after being denied, he probably wasn't the kind of friend you would want around anyways.
Why does it seem like we all want to pursue a romantic relationship with you? Often times it is because we are friends. We know who your are. We like spending time with you. We do greatly desire sex. If we can get it from someone we already know we like and we can spend time with that saves a lot of pain and effort from trying to meet someone we don't know for that purpose.
If a male friend is a real friend, he'll remain so after sex has been taken off the table, but most straight men are going to try at least a couple times if they don't have someone else. If he flakes after being denied, he probably wasn't the kind of friend you would want around anyways.
janicemegan · 18-21, F
janicemegan · 18-21, F
@ViciDraco thank you. it's nice of you to say that, i feel used half of the time because the time i spent with some of my friends were awesome. i felt like i could rely on them and stuff, but then turns out they never even cared.
if i could ask, though, are there tips on how to identify people who are just after you ( sexually/romantically ) with people who are there because they want to get to know you as a person and friend?
if i could ask, though, are there tips on how to identify people who are just after you ( sexually/romantically ) with people who are there because they want to get to know you as a person and friend?
ViciDraco · 36-40, M
@janicemegan I definitely do not have all the answers there. I don't know how these guys are initially approaching you either. I would say if it someone you don't already know, don't advertise that you are single or looking. I'm guessing that isn't as much the problem though.
If these are guys you kind of know, look at their other friends. Do they have any? Are any others women? If they don't have other female friends there is a small chance you are the first, but there is a bigger chance they don't keep women in their friend group.
The problem with the second approach is you might filter out shy people who really do need a friend. So it's difficult.
If these are guys you kind of know, look at their other friends. Do they have any? Are any others women? If they don't have other female friends there is a small chance you are the first, but there is a bigger chance they don't keep women in their friend group.
The problem with the second approach is you might filter out shy people who really do need a friend. So it's difficult.
janicemegan · 18-21, F
@ViciDraco that still quite helps. thank you
janicemegan · 18-21, F
@ViciDraco that's true. there's some here in the comment section, these reasoning sound like shit and it's an awful mindset to have. i guess, it's up to me to be wary of it. it's better to be picky of my friends instead or i'll be hurt all over again just because some men don't see me as a human being deserving of respect