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Why are there no official friendship breakups like in relationships?

At least I'd know if I was bothering someone or if it's okay to message them every once in a while. How do people know they aren't friends with someone anymore?
Edit: not including arguments ofc
iQuit · F
nothing is official until you realize that neither will budge to make things better whether in a romantic relationship or a fraternal one

It's hard to know what others are actually thinking

It's much easier to assume from the silence.
so in either case something is officially over when one has stop giving a damn and shut the other one out.

Sometimes the strongest thing isn't a word said or things done but time/silence/and distance between people.
pentacorn · F
if you suspect you're not friends anymore, you're probably correct.
pentacorn · F
[@9882,iKnow] you can't expect all people to be as brave as you are, and blunt as you'd be towards them. just back off and see if he ever says hello again. if he never does, then you know for sure... after many moons go by. if he does say hello again, well... maybe he takes care of his friendships differently than you do.

just let him do all the initiations in communications, and live your life happily in the meantime.
Melpomene · 22-25, F
[@664411,pentacorn] And let anxiety kill what's left of your self esteem :D

I guess you're right. Maybe I just prefer to know what's going on..
pentacorn · F
[@9882,iKnow] lol...

yeah, me too... but you can't always get what you want. *shrugs* all i know is everything is gonna be okay. :)
same way, they stop communicating.
no if they push you away or even start being rude, the friendship is over much the same way a relationship is, their need of you is over.
Melpomene · 22-25, F
[@586376,badapple] Their "need"? I try to avoid rude people. Omg, what kind of friends did you have?
I push away lot of people when I feel down (in a nice way, I just say I have a fever and need rest), but that doesn't mean I don't want them to be my friends anymore. And I prefer honesty than fake friendship.
just ones that go distant or turn on you. as you get older most of the friends you had when you are a teen go away, only a few will stay with you. im kind of the same way to be honest. closing myself off at times.
Zer0Point · 31-35, F
I've only 'broke up' with one friend. She was going down a path I could not follow and I told her not to contact me until she gets her life together...haven't heard from her since, lol.
Zer0Point · 31-35, F
[@9882,iKnow] From what I've seen on social media she's doing really well now :)
Melpomene · 22-25, F
[@335499,Zer0Point] Hah, everyone's well on social media. But hey, at least you got rid of a fake friend (:
Zer0Point · 31-35, F
[@9882,iKnow] Lol, this is very true xD
PerthSurfer · 46-50, M
You start getting replies to your texts that take much longer to arrive and start with sorry I have just been so busy, and the replies are more superficial and finally you plan to meet up and they never get back to you with a day.
Melpomene · 22-25, F
[@557074,PerthSurfer] But some people are busy (job, university etc) and some people I never met up with
PerthSurfer · 46-50, M
[@9882,iKnow] That is true, some people are genuinely sorry for the delay in replying as they have busy lives.

Also I have had friends where we hardly have talked for months because we have been so busy, but then suddenly we are talking again, yet I have an online friend in the US and we have talked every day for nearly 5 years... maybe missed 3 days in that time so I don't know there's an easy way to tell.
Melpomene · 22-25, F
[@557074,PerthSurfer] Exactly
VeronicaPrincess · 61-69
In this new era of instantaneous wireless communication, perhaps there should be an official breakup. "Back in my day", people simply drifted apart, stopped stopping over and/or meeting at the old hangouts.
Melpomene · 22-25, F
[@370553,VeronicaPrincess] ...it's the same.
VeronicaPrincess · 61-69
[@9882,iKnow] Except for the texting, or returning missed calls (we didn't have even have answering machines, let alone caller ID).
Melpomene · 22-25, F
[@370553,VeronicaPrincess] Times change, people stay same. Unfortunately.
johnnyq12 · 31-35, M
break ups suck enough why make it to were you have to do that more then necessary.
Melpomene · 22-25, F
[@614543,johnnyq12] I want to know if I'm friends with someone. And I want to be open with my friends about it. I don't mind being left I just want to know the truth.

 
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