Why is it so hard to make friends these days?

Call me close-minded, but in the last 5 years I've noticed that it's gotten alot harder to find and make genuine friends anymore. My interests just don't align with alot of others at all, which makes sense. I was never the most popular kid in School at all, but I always found it hard to make friends. It's depressing because all the friends I had for a long time are finally moving on with their lives, while I'm still going at a turtle pace. It feels like I'm stuck, and can't even find new friends to compensate for my old ones leaving.

Is there any advice from others who have felt the same way in the past? Or maybe even are feeling the same way now? How can I get myself out there better?

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SW-User

it's not a priority to make friends, it's nice to have them. So don't feel pressure or a need to make friends just for the sake of making friends. Its nice to have people to talk to. Which you can do here or with whomever you know. Find forums with people that share your same interests, that would be a good possible start. You should invest in something for yourself, you said your old friends are moving on in their life. You should do the same, invest in a skill, a new hobby. Doing that will also promote new possible friends for you to have. Find people who want you be the best you you can be.

DanielChristensen · 46-50, M

@SW-User Beautifully said.

TheMasterMan1 · 22-25, M

@SW-User I see what you're saying, and normally I'd agree. However, I've done just that for the past couple of years and it hardly has gotten me anywhere. While it is a wise idea to invest myself into something that will help, I still have difficulty finding that area right now. For everyone, it's different.. Thanks for the input though :3

SW-User

Yes, I have found the same thing over the past few years. Mostly in my case everyone I know is in a relationship and couples and families prefer to hang out with similar, not single guys. Your age should make it a bit easier but it's still hard.

TheMasterMan1 · 22-25, M

@SW-User You'd think it would be easy for somebody my age..

SW-User

@TheMasterMan1 I would have thought so once, but I know things have changed a lot now for all of us.

TrickyTrixie · 31-35, F

I feel the same way

TheMasterMan1 · 22-25, M

@TrickyTrixie Ugh, tell me about it.. Everyone just thinks it's A-okay to walk out of my life whenever it's convenient for them.

SW-User

People don't have loyalty anymore. 😬

megrose · 56-60, F

Your age group can be difficult because of the many changes you have in life in late teens and early 20s. It was a hard time for me too. Not everyone has the chance to go to college and live in dorm but I made some great friends in that environment some.of whom are still good friends after 30 years. The other most likely place to build friendships is where you work or if you are involved in a special interest group or volunteer at some cause you care about. Some churches also have great social events for youth or young adults that can help too. For example, my church has volleyball all summer and social group every week. Not all churches have that but the newer larger ones want to welcome younger people so they often do those kinds of things.

Fernie · F

keep looking for your tribe. They are out there

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