Why is it so hard to make friends these days?

Call me close-minded, but in the last 5 years I've noticed that it's gotten alot harder to find and make genuine friends anymore. My interests just don't align with alot of others at all, which makes sense. I was never the most popular kid in School at all, but I always found it hard to make friends. It's depressing because all the friends I had for a long time are finally moving on with their lives, while I'm still going at a turtle pace. It feels like I'm stuck, and can't even find new friends to compensate for my old ones leaving.

Is there any advice from others who have felt the same way in the past? Or maybe even are feeling the same way now? How can I get myself out there better?

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megrose · 56-60, F

Your age group can be difficult because of the many changes you have in life in late teens and early 20s. It was a hard time for me too. Not everyone has the chance to go to college and live in dorm but I made some great friends in that environment some.of whom are still good friends after 30 years. The other most likely place to build friendships is where you work or if you are involved in a special interest group or volunteer at some cause you care about. Some churches also have great social events for youth or young adults that can help too. For example, my church has volleyball all summer and social group every week. Not all churches have that but the newer larger ones want to welcome younger people so they often do those kinds of things.