How do adults even have friends??

My life is so full of everyday grind- work, shopping, cooking, cleaning, preparing for the following workday, etc. I have no time to actually just drop everything and go hang out somewhere with a friend. 😔

Recently a girl gave me her number so we could maybe hang out sometime because we have both only been in Phoenix for a year and we have no friends here. But after a brief text conversation yesterday, we haven't reached out to one another since, and we probably won't. 😕

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itsok · 31-35, F

You can set a day where you’ll be slightly less busy than other days, and potentially put off cleaning for that one day. You’ll only really need to do that once or twice a month.
I like to add friends into what I already have to or was going to do. If I have to pick up something at Sephora I’ll ask a friend I know likes skincare and makeup if she’d like to go. And you can add picking up a drink/snack/meal while you’re at it. “Do you wanna get a tea and browse Sephora this Thursday?”
You can do that with allll kinds of things, and it doesn’t have to take too much time. It might take half an hour longer than if you went yourself.
You can have someone go grocery shopping with you, or if you meal prep, you can do that together.
I saw you said you know someone who likes to read. I used to go to a diner every Saturday night and have dessert and coffee and read, and I would invite someone to go with me. If they couldn’t, I’d be happy doing it alone, but they usually came. We eventually started bringing our 3DS’s and played animal crossing together.