Have you ever been ghosted by a friend for no clear or apparent reason?

@LukeTheDuke Oh we do not talk ever. We haven't gotten together in two years. I was cordial when I saw her, and she kind of led me on saying Let's get together..yet she never contacts. I've let it go in my mind.. but I'm unsure HOW to act soon when I see her

Well simple, she’s no longer a friend, she also isn’t a stranger. She is someone who you knew (or thought you knew)very closely. You were a friend, confidante, no doubt you shared secrets, and you showed her your vulnerabilities, discussed your life problems and built a pact. She broke that pact. She showed you a lack of respect, by breaking that bond.

So you have two choices here the next time you see her. Either, ask her to have the respect to explain why she trashed your friendship, that is the least you can expect from a former friend. The other choice is to simply ignore her. Those are the two self-respecting choices in front of you.

I think the worst choice of all is to allow her to play with reality and pretend that she can have a conversation with you while ignoring what happened, I.e. she walked out on you. That allows her to control your behaviour and not explain her own. That’s a terrible choice imo.@Coralmist

@LukeTheDuke @LukeTheDuke Thanks for such a detailed reply. It hurts me to ignore but she truly hurt my core and friendship. I felt like DO I even know her, after so long??? I appreciate your views..it feels too awkward to smile at her again and say Sure! , Knowing she doesn't care at all to contact me😕 Ty Luke🌸

Well at least that can be understood even though it is selfish. @imo21169

@LukeTheDuke they usually dont think about others,just how happy they are

Entirely true. @imo21169

@LukeTheDuke thank you. I really hate losing friends.

Me too. I value friendship so much that I try and repair rather than walk away if something goes wrong. Unfortunately, so many people don’t, even people I thought had really good morals, values and compassion. @SW-User

So glad you and your friend made up, surely that’s what we should all do with our friends. @SW-User

It is confusing and hurtful. Sorry to hear you went through this, but from what you’ve said I think that you at least suspect that you understand why it ended. What is more confusing is when there is no clue at all why someone has ended it.@TeresaRudolph71

@LukeTheDuke Yes, that's much worse. Those unanswered questions can make it so much more difficult. There's no closure.

And thank you.

Yes it does. At it seems to be the standard way many people leave friendships/relationships these days. It is so damaging and frustrating, and I truly can’t understand why people don’t value friendship enough to at least try and repair things or leave in a better way. @JupiterDreams

I can never understand why people walk away and don’t even think an explanation is warranted. @TexChik

@LukeTheDuke I always Just assume it was me and let it go.

I’ve been ghosted when there has been no argument, disagreement or fall out at all. In those circumstances I can’t blame me or them or anything. It’s just completely baffling. @TexChik

I agree it is so hurtful. If two people have been friends and there has been no serious argument or bust up, I really fail to understand why someone would just disappear and why they don’t have the decency to at least try and repair what they think is wrong with the friendship or have the dignity to explain to the other person why they are no longer interested in maintaining the friendship. @Piper

@LukeTheDuke I have to figure, that they just have their own reasons...and do not think I'm worthy of an explanation of why.

That happens a lot on here, but doesn’t worry me. I’m more concerned about real life friends. @SW-User

Sorry you’ve been through it. @LittleEvilOne

Utterly frustrating experience. @SW-User

@LukeTheDuke same i have kinda given up on wondering why

I hope some true friends do come into your life. @GeorgeTBH

@LukeTheDuke same with yours

Well ultimately they aren’t a friend, but someone I’ve known for 15 years has done it to me. It’s just so baffling. @SW-User

@LukeTheDuke Thats a tough one

Yes, it’s hit me really deeply. @SW-User

Jealous of what?@iamnikki

I hope you find some good friends.@SilkWeb

No, real life. I have no expectations online as it is a rather artificial and fickle form of knowing someone. @Fernie

@LukeTheDuke smart man

I don’t feel smart at all. No matter how hard I work at friendship, it is one of the things that has been the least successful in my life. @Fernie

Just once or more?@submissivelittlewoman