Why stay in the friend zone? I just don't get it.

OK so I have a friend and she has been hurt so many times but yet she comes to me and saying, I'm the best friend as I listen, I told her that I would date her, but she said "No. She just likes me as a friend." It's much easier to walk away and have no friends at all but that would make me selfish, but I am tired of this, keeps hurting because of her boyfriends, when it's good she leaves me alone, when it's bad she can't leave me alone. I just feel used and it hurts me.

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BlueMetalChick · 26-30, F

A friend is something to be valued while a lover is not. I consider my friends way more important than someone I date. I have no problem lying to a lover or using them. But a friend? No, I wouldn't mistreat a person with whom I share a friendship.

Mal42 · 46-50, M

@BlueMetalChick That's why it's so hard for me as I feel I'm hurtful and I don't want that. Many thanks for your advice. I am not that kind of person to mistreat a friend hence why I needed advice what to do. I'll always be there for the friend regardless. If I meet someone then great. I'm not looking for dating so that's all good. :)

BlueMetalChick · 26-30, F

@Mal42 Just remember though, I'm a piece of shit who steals from people so of my advice goes wrong, trust your heart before you trust my fraudulent ass 😂

Mal42 · 46-50, M

@BlueMetalChick But it was good advice. But thank you for your honesty. :)