cloroxontherocks · 51-55, M
I usually let it be. No need to dwell on it. Sometimes people come along to get us through or vice versa. They come and go.
I used to only blame myself. I’d replay everything I did wrong and ignore how they hurt me. I would carry all the guilt and convince myself I ruined everything. Now I’m realizing it’s usually both people who can be toxic and contribute. But we are still growing. We’re not pointing fingers at each other anymore. We are willing to change
We’re still here and still learning how to communicate and love each other more. I wanted our relationship to be perfect but it’s not even about that it’s about us growing together to raise our kids and being a happy family that loves each other. Everything I’ve learned from being with him about love I want to teach our kids.
We’re still here and still learning how to communicate and love each other more. I wanted our relationship to be perfect but it’s not even about that it’s about us growing together to raise our kids and being a happy family that loves each other. Everything I’ve learned from being with him about love I want to teach our kids.
@TurtlePink
That’s such powerful growth. It takes a lot of self awareness to move from self blame to shared accountability. I really admire the work you’re both doing. 🤍
I relate to the self blaming part so much, replaying everything and carrying all the guilt is exhausting. It’s not easy to unlearn that. The shift from “it’s all my fault” to “we’re both growing” is such a healthy, mature place to land.
That’s such powerful growth. It takes a lot of self awareness to move from self blame to shared accountability. I really admire the work you’re both doing. 🤍
I relate to the self blaming part so much, replaying everything and carrying all the guilt is exhausting. It’s not easy to unlearn that. The shift from “it’s all my fault” to “we’re both growing” is such a healthy, mature place to land.
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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
I tend to automatically assume that it's my fault because I'm a rather asocial person who doesn't put much effort into relationships in general. But if someone sort of ghosts me, I do take it personally. By ghosting I mean when our conversation ended with me asking something and getting no reply. That is not nice.
@CrazyMusicLover
I get that.
I get that.
@pituitarypendulum
Solid mindset. Every ending leaves a mirror behind. The question is whether we’re willing to look into it.
Solid mindset. Every ending leaves a mirror behind. The question is whether we’re willing to look into it.
@mindstruggle I am looking straight into it and trying to do better but also not willing to tolerate certain behaviors either any more ...friendship is a two way street ....
@pituitarypendulum
I love that. You can reflect and improve on yourself while still standing firm on what you won’t tolerate. I admire that from you.
I love that. You can reflect and improve on yourself while still standing firm on what you won’t tolerate. I admire that from you.
Alyosha · 36-40, M
I reflect on both. The person I imagined them to be was not the person I was with. It's a tough thing to handle.
@Blondily
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Tumbleweed · F
@Tumbleweed
True. It’s always both but sometimes we only fully see our part when it’s too late.
True. It’s always both but sometimes we only fully see our part when it’s too late.
Tumbleweed · F
@mindstruggle And I always am able to say "I tried" so all the shame is on them, not me.
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Youwereexpectingajoke · 31-35, M
@Youwereexpectingajoke
That’s a healthy mindset. Still, every goodbye leaves a little mark. Maybe the key is learning from it without holding on too tightly.
That’s a healthy mindset. Still, every goodbye leaves a little mark. Maybe the key is learning from it without holding on too tightly.
BrandNewMan · 61-69, M