When friendships fade, do you reflect on how you showed up or do you only reflect on how they walked away?
Do you reflect on how you showed up for them, or only on how they walked away from you?
This page is a permanent link to the reply below and its nested replies. See all post replies »
I used to only blame myself. I’d replay everything I did wrong and ignore how they hurt me. I would carry all the guilt and convince myself I ruined everything. Now I’m realizing it’s usually both people who can be toxic and contribute. But we are still growing. We’re not pointing fingers at each other anymore. We are willing to change
We’re still here and still learning how to communicate and love each other more. I wanted our relationship to be perfect but it’s not even about that it’s about us growing together to raise our kids and being a happy family that loves each other. Everything I’ve learned from being with him about love I want to teach our kids.
We’re still here and still learning how to communicate and love each other more. I wanted our relationship to be perfect but it’s not even about that it’s about us growing together to raise our kids and being a happy family that loves each other. Everything I’ve learned from being with him about love I want to teach our kids.
@TurtlePink
That’s such powerful growth. It takes a lot of self awareness to move from self blame to shared accountability. I really admire the work you’re both doing. 🤍
I relate to the self blaming part so much, replaying everything and carrying all the guilt is exhausting. It’s not easy to unlearn that. The shift from “it’s all my fault” to “we’re both growing” is such a healthy, mature place to land.
That’s such powerful growth. It takes a lot of self awareness to move from self blame to shared accountability. I really admire the work you’re both doing. 🤍
I relate to the self blaming part so much, replaying everything and carrying all the guilt is exhausting. It’s not easy to unlearn that. The shift from “it’s all my fault” to “we’re both growing” is such a healthy, mature place to land.