Update. A conversation did happen.

I think it took way longer than I wanted to and it felt like dragging my feet through the mud, but I finally had that final conversation with my "best friend".
It felt like pulling a tooth but well. It's done, we're done, now I have to keep on going without her.
To be honest a part of me is resting now, finally. I recognize the situation was turning very toxic and the good feeling I had for her where getting tainted.
I am grateful for the memories and everything we went through together. I wish it didn't have to end but I'm glad is over.
oof. That was liberating. I'm sure when it truly downs on me I will grieve a little more. Or a lot more. I accept that, but it's scary because I don't have a lot of other friends that I'm close enough to get through these things with.
but oh well. I can get through it. I'm sure more people will come by sometime.

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MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

I don't know how you'd do without her but man if you can still kinda call her your best friend then you should try to solve it with her, despite that "last" conversation. It's very difficult to find new friends as an adult, especially best friends.

risanna · 26-30, F

@MartinTheFirst i tried to solve it many times and letting it go is the best i can do. thank you 🫶🏻

LadyGrace

@MartinTheFirst I wholeheartedly disagree. Unless you're in that situation it's hard to imagine but friends don't treat you that way and when it continues and continues after attempts to bring about better understanding and communication, it's toxic to stay in that type relationship because it's not a relationship. It's a lie. Finding a better friend is not impossible or even hard if you know who to look for.

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@LadyGrace if you dont understand where im coming from then you've got no empathy and want to see her ruined.

LadyGrace

@MartinTheFirst oh I see where you're coming from but you don't have the understanding I do about these things. She understands me. She knows what I'm talking about.

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@LadyGrace You clearly don't and now you're lying.