Have you ever gone looking for a fight and ended up worrying about the other person?

It doesn't sound like you were so much looking for a fight as simply wanting to confront someone about behavior that was bothering you...which sounds quite reasonable to me. In a comparable situation yes I have found myself annoyed by someone only to find out that annoyance had some underlying roots. People in struggle are rarely at their best. Hope your friend will be okay.

People tend to be the most argumentative in writing but face to face or video calls, not as much.

I have had a couple disagreements with people on here but then somehow we got to talking.

nope ,never look for a fight,but now you know go help her out.

Hell no

Why the fuck would anyone go looking for a fight.... What is it your trying to prove...

No.