Should I tolerate someone just because they are "real" ?

Would you put up with someone even when you're not genuinely interested just because they are a great person ? I find this guy death boring, but he tells me I should allow him in my personal space because he is the kind of person who will be there when I need someone. I've always wanted real friends. What do I do ?

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ViciDraco · 41-45, M

Boring people can often be stable. But the type of people who try to tell you what kind of person they are and what you should do because of that raises red flags for me.

If they were boring but were proving themselves as someone that was there when you needed I might say to give them a chance because the excitement is rarely forever. But someone who insists for themselves that you should allow them seems off. The way that a nice guy is simply kind but a "nice" guy has to tell everyone how nice he is. Actions vs. Words and he has some concerning words.