Childfree is my choice

When you tell people that you don't have children, they automatically think negatively of you. That you're selfish and hate children. Why does it have to be that way? There are so many that have children, that shouldn't have had them. It's better to make the choice that you know is right for you rather than having regrets.

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bijouxbroussard · F

So far if people have assumed all that without knowing anything more about me than that I’m childless, they’ve kept it to themselves. 🤨

SW-User

@bijouxbroussard You've felt pressure to have a child? I remember telling my mother why I left my first partner, how I was needing something different from life, and then feeling the immediate hurt she felt? She even turned that against me saying I was hurting her and when there I had only said I don't need children. She thought I was ridiculing and hurting her by saying I don't need children?

bijouxbroussard · F

@SW-User No, I actually said the opposite. People have pretty much left me alone about it, which I appreciate. It’s probably easier to say one never had children than to recount the death of one’s only child. But generally people don’t ask me. I’m told that with strangers, my demeanor doesn’t invite personal questions.