Would you speak up to a narcissist ex friend?

My friend of 27 years keeps messaging me every so often to come visit her but I do not reply. I stopped contact with her 4 years ago due to her lying to me twice and also putting my sister down over her medical condition..telling my sister to just "GET OUT MORE" when she has unbearable pain. Also told her not to "feel sorry for herself" 😵
I just do not reply to her messages because if you tell her she defends herself and thinks she does NO wrong..ever. Would you eventually say "I am no longer friends?? " Or just let it go until she sends another message? Only ONCE i spoke up to her in 27 years and she wrote 3 paragraphs defending her rude behavior then said *I* was "punishing" her..just for saying ONE thing I thought. 😶

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Primnproper · 56-60, F

If im cutting someone from my life, im not rude, but i will tell them why, so theres no misunderstanding or coming back from it if I've gotten to that point.

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

@Primnproper The only thing with her is (a narcissist) they will not accept your reasoning , your message, etc. I only brought up one thing in 27 years she had done to me that hurt my feelings, and she said 'I' was punishing HER (by merely bringing it up)> I can't even imagine the endless message back she would say to me if I told her why I am no longer in contact. I think for many it can work and they can accept it, or maybe they would even apologize.... but unfortunately not in this case :(

Primnproper · 56-60, F

@Baybreeze just say your piece then tell her thats the end of it dont contact me again.