Would you speak up to a narcissist ex friend?

My friend of 27 years keeps messaging me every so often to come visit her but I do not reply. I stopped contact with her 4 years ago due to her lying to me twice and also putting my sister down over her medical condition..telling my sister to just "GET OUT MORE" when she has unbearable pain. Also told her not to "feel sorry for herself" 😵
I just do not reply to her messages because if you tell her she defends herself and thinks she does NO wrong..ever. Would you eventually say "I am no longer friends?? " Or just let it go until she sends another message? Only ONCE i spoke up to her in 27 years and she wrote 3 paragraphs defending her rude behavior then said *I* was "punishing" her..just for saying ONE thing I thought. 😶

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SW-User

I get myself in trouble this way, but I think it's worth questioning is who we label as a narcissist, are they really? It's a term thrown around now, that many can identify with in feelings when they are hurt. Now people want to be rude and then at other times protect people from feelings, so online outside a few I essentially trust no response as there is no context.

I would say your friend was being insensitive, callous, perhaps blind of her actions, but most often I feel if you take away the "label" if there something together you will find it better if you don't look in those terms.

and hugs, I'm sorry you are dealing with a friend who puts herself first.

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

@SW-User Yes she is a narcissist. She once talked about every single aspect of her vacation and every single activity she did for ThREE hours STRAIGHT. 👀
Actually SAID to my sister WHat is in it for ME? When my sis asked her to order her something online (and gave her cash). She wasn't joking either. Other unbelievable things that a narcissist does..but don't want to post.