Would you speak up to a narcissist ex friend?

My friend of 27 years keeps messaging me every so often to come visit her but I do not reply. I stopped contact with her 4 years ago due to her lying to me twice and also putting my sister down over her medical condition..telling my sister to just "GET OUT MORE" when she has unbearable pain. Also told her not to "feel sorry for herself" 😵
I just do not reply to her messages because if you tell her she defends herself and thinks she does NO wrong..ever. Would you eventually say "I am no longer friends?? " Or just let it go until she sends another message? Only ONCE i spoke up to her in 27 years and she wrote 3 paragraphs defending her rude behavior then said *I* was "punishing" her..just for saying ONE thing I thought. 😶

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twiigss · M

There are times when you have to be brutally honest. This is one of those times. Next time she texts you, lay it out there completely. Maybe something like this:

"I know we don't speak much anymore, and it's because of your behavior. I can't keep doing this with you. You try to be my friend, but you're simply not a friend when you put my sister down because of a medical condition she has. Please don't message me anymore, goodbye."

I dunno, just a thought for ya. I can certainly understand how tough something like that has to be and frustrating. I hope you can get it all sorted.