This weird or not?

So recently got chatting more to another mum at the school where my kids go. We'd chatted a little before on the school run etc. Anyhoo she turned up on my doorstep yesterday (she lives on the same street) asked for my number after a brief chat at the door.
Next thing I know she's texting me tonight and inviting herself around for a coffee next week.
Now I've never been good with in your face type people. I tend to keep people at arms length, and I'm not comfortable being too clicky with anyone really.
So I've kind of put her off for now. Nice enough chick, but bit of a gossip type.
Anyone else a bit weary of people. Not keen of getting clicky really?

My best friend of 30 yrs died last Feb. No-one will come close to her friendship.

I guess I'm kind of guarded 🤷

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WillaKissing · 56-60, M

I am like you are, and it takes years of knowing me to really know me. And I do not open that door to friendship easily.

Purplerain78 · 46-50, F

@WillaKissing Yeah it's not easy at all

WillaKissing · 56-60, M

@Purplerain78 Nope, and I will not make it easy either for my own personal protection either. It is an earned honor with me and not something to be easily given away.

Torsten · 36-40, M

i avoid other parents at all cost when at schools waiting on my son or whatever. They all seem very clingy and desperate for friendship.
Chat to one and they follow you around like a toddler.

Sorry to hear about your best friend. My best friend took his life years ago and yeah same as you with your friend, no one could replace that friendship with me but i do have other close mates in a small friend circle and yeah i avoid basically everyone else. Dont need anymore friends in person i think

Purplerain78 · 46-50, F

@Torsten Yeah I do tend to avoid the majority of people at school. Only say hi to couple and that's it. Since my relationship breakdown though this one she's kind of been lingering. I'm very guarded (more since my best friend died) good friends don't just pop up out of the blue. I'm hoping she'll back off a bit tbh 😬🤷

BritishFailedAesthetic · M

My best friend of 30 yrs died last Feb. No-one will come close to her friendship.

Really sorry to hear that 😔

Up to you, just have some control people can't be inviting themselves round, I'd personally go for it.

Purplerain78 · 46-50, F

@BritishFailedAesthetic yeah the inviting herself over bit really made me feel uneasy. If any friendship is to occur it has to be steadily done. I don't do throw yourself type thing at all.

AnniiAgain · 51-55, F

Same, I don’t have a best friend. And I’m
Not sure I even want one at this point.

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Elisbch · M

That's why i have boundaries. I've run into these type of people too many times. If they're any kind of sensible human, they'll understand. If they don't, well then, they just don't get it. 🤷.

SteveTomms · 56-60, M

Totally understandable to me. And sorry to hear of the very sad event!

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