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LiLShrimp · 22-25, F
Omg I just had this issue. I met this really cool dude awhile ago, and I really wanted to be friends with him, but he ended up falling for me. 🗿 There went a potentially amazing friendship.
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IWasCallingYaLarry · 26-30, M
@LiLShrimp I get what you're saying, but at the same time, he probably didn't even know you were taken already. Not unless you were honest and told him? If you did and he still fell for you regardless, I mean that's on him and Idk why he'd waste his time trying to get a taken girl, then. Plus, to do that to another man is just not cool, anyway.
LiLShrimp · 22-25, F
@IWasCallingYaLarry He totally knew I’m in a relationship. But I don’t know why you keep trying to defend this guy. 🤔 All I’m saying that it’s an unfortunate thing that he and I can’t be friends because he’s caught feelings for me. I don’t blame him for falling for me because humans usually can’t control their feelings for someone. That’s it. Leave it at that.
IWasCallingYaLarry · 26-30, M
@LiLShrimp I'm not defending him because I don't even know him or his side of the story. I was asking you questions because I question everything and don't just take someone at their word and there's two sides to every story. All I said was if he had no idea, then that's on him. Seeing as you did tell him, yeah then of course that is his own fault. Trust me, I've fallen into the same situation multiple times, where I'd like a girl and she would either keep from me that she had a boyfriend or she'd lie and tell me she is seeing someone when she very much wasn't actually seeing someone and she just didn't wanna be honest in rejecting me. Every time now and I've been doing this for a while now because I've learned from my mistakes with my sad past attempts at a love life, if a girl I am interested in gives me her number and then eventually tells me she is with someone, I stop responding to her, delete her number, and move on. My mom gave me terrible dating advice, which typical because nobody should ever take dating advice from women, especially other women because they love sabotaging each other, I've personally seen it happen, but my mom's advice was to "Try being her friend first." Yeah, that literally never works. That's Hallmark movie bullshit, not real life. She's seen too many of those movies lol. Every single time I ever did that and other guys have, 98% of the time the guy gets friendzoned hard and stands no chance. So now if a girl tells me she already has a boyfriend, I just say "Okay then. Have a good day." I don't decide to be their friend because I have enough friends. I don't need any more friends. I have the few guy friends in my life and the few married female friends in my life and their families I am close with and that's good enough for me.
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
Yeah 😅 theres this girl who is extremely beautiful & we get along so well... but for some reason I never saw us being together. We just go out on random dates & do cute stuff. We've slept together at random times but we never chase each other or try to take it serious. We're just cool with being friends 🤷
I feel bad though because she asked me on a date again weeks ago & I never answered because I was in a relationship 😶 but she's still cool so who knows 🤷 maybe someday but not now
I feel bad though because she asked me on a date again weeks ago & I never answered because I was in a relationship 😶 but she's still cool so who knows 🤷 maybe someday but not now
SW-User
@ChiefJustWalks from my point of view all those years ago, a fk buddy was never going to be serious about me, so I was never serious either
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
@SW-User yup 😅 like she's a good fuck buddy though. It's been like 2 years & she's still chill & doesn't expect anything... So neither do I 😌
SW-User
@ChiefJustWalks I just love conversations where I can't see between... You just laughed at yourself saying she's a good fuck buddy. You must see the beauty of SW this way.
I am used to that I think I am odd because it's really hard for me to click with anyone even friends
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
@SlippingAway same
Harmonium1923 · 51-55, M
Yes, but it's also great to make new friends, even at older ages. That happened to me recently, even at age 53.
smiler2012 · 56-60
{@dearambellina2113] i suppose that is a mistake easily made but no harm done , if it feels wrong for you best too get out sooner rather than later
CassandraSissy · 26-30, T
Really? I've never had that with my close friends....