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Would you retain a mate who has a terrible spouse you want no association with ?

I'm already socially uncomfortable without Mr Motor Mouth all over my business every time. EVERY BLOODY TIME 😑
Morvoren · F
I have a friend who has disastrous taste in men, and her current fella is painful to be around.

But she’s my friend. She means a lot to me, and if that idiot makes her happy then I’ll just have to be a big girl about it. No way am I loosing her as a friend because of him.
@Morvoren That's good. I would tolerate it if my mate has some common sense and knows her worth. This one is stupid enough to sit around while he openly flirts with everything on two legs ?
Morvoren · F
@DrScissorhands People have different tolerances for that I suppose. If your friend hates that too but can’t do anything about it, it must be painful to watch their discomfort knowing you can’t intervene without him causing them relationship drama.
I cut a friend loose once because of her partner. She would turn up at my door at 3:00 am after fighting with him. That was bad enough, until he began showing up looking for her and threatening to kick in my door. I called the police on him, she’s begging me not to press charges—no thanks. She was not going to leave him, but he wasn’t going to be a problem in my life.
So I had to let her go, too. 🙁
@bijouxbroussard I only see my male bestfriend year to year and made the mistake once of homing his then partner. They had a very toxic relationship and I was smack in the middle of it. Never made the same mistake twice
CassandraSissy · 26-30, T
I have this gurlfriend, sweetie, who's probably my closest friend and her partner is always doing something with someone else and there's always some drama attached. It gets old very quickly but she's a real darlin'...

..so, I talk to him....might, if I'm being quite nice, laugh at some of his jokes...but I never trust him.

..but, we're friends so I put up with it. It's not like I see him that often anyways...

😘
@CassandraSissy Unfortunately I do see them more regularly now and I am running out of patience and tolerance
CassandraSissy · 26-30, T
@DrScissorhands Oh, sorry to hear that sweetie....

😔
meggie · F
My frienda husband is a nasty piece of work. Her own family refuse to go there and she has no friends left because of him. He split my partner and i up by telling him i had an affair while on holiday. Big joke to him until he realised what he'd done and for once apologised and said he was only joking and didn't realise it would be taken seriously.
@meggie It's hard to fathom that someone you resonate with can make such poor decisions. Especially if your entire friendship is based on logic
meggie · F
@DrScissorhands he has out her down so much she feels she is lucky to have him. But i dont understand it either as he has no friends himself.
bookerdana · M
maybe the mate needs you???
bookerdana · M
@DrScissorhands tell mate ya don't want the combo platter
@bookerdana I'll break it down to her in a nicer way
bookerdana · M
@DrScissorhands One hopes!🤣 I am a troglydyte
ArtieKat · M
I've drifted apart from friends whose partners didn't like me (ME!!!) but I've never consciously ditched any mates.
@ArtieKat Good for you 👍
Pretzel · 61-69, M
sort of "the devil you know" feeling?
I get it - but once you make the break - best to make it a complete one unless you have a business or kids together.
Not if mate comes with partner. I didn’t get told this was a buy one get one free offer 🙄
@BeefySenpie Precisely. I cant stand the douche. Made socialising incredibly tedious
SW-User
Yes. It happens unfortunately
@SW-User You're a Saint
SW-User
@DrScissorhands nah I just keep my mouth shut 😅
@SW-User I can understand it
Bang5luts · M
One thing I know for sure, you are very intelligent. Give him something to talk about that will make him think he has something to talk about, and when he opens his mouth and inserts his foot, it will hopefully be for the last time..
@Bang5luts You think i havent tried. 😅
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@DarkSideoftheMoon You're a good friend. At least she had you.
DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F
@DrScissorhands thanks. We still keep intouch but she doesnt tell me much anymore. Just wants to know how im doing and says shes fine and thats it. And that shes pregnant now. I just say im happy for her and wish her the best but i mean, nothing i can really do that i havent tried already. I told her i feel like im condoning the relationship by being supportive but everyone else left and that didnt make a difference and me being supportive didnt either so idk i tried. Guess there isnt straight answers for these kind of things

 
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