Is it really important?

I got sent a picture of someone's dinner and to me it looked like heartattack on the plate.
It's too much food 4 Yorkshire puddings, 5 roast potatoes a large slab of cauliflower cheese, broccoli and cabbage, lots of. Roast pork and coated in gravy.

I showed the photo to my mum, I said look how much food is on this plate isn't that a lot of food?
She immediately asks me is that your partners dinner so I said no...
I then repeated and said is that too much or is that just me? So she repeated is it your partners and I said no, does it matter?
I'm showing you the food?

I wasn't being secretive but sometimes I find things on the Internet and show my mum.

I know I might have been abrupt but does it matter if that's his food or a random does that change the quantity?

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4meAndyou · F

Some people simply don't focus on the exact thing you would LIKE them to focus upon. My cleaning lady is like that, at times. I'll mention something or other to her, and she goes OFF on some tangent and becomes a bit excitable about her tangent...and it's immensely frustrating...so I sympathize with you.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@4meAndyou I'm sorry that happens I don't know if the people doing it realise they are.
Is it a way to just get away from the current situation? I don't know...

she's seriously doing my head in.
It's the way she snaps at me constantly.
Yesterday she offered to come help me walk the dog. I waited all day and just struggled until I called her at 5pm where she said "oh I just needed a day for myself!"

But you were the one that suggested it!
She then calls me and wakes me out my sleep at 8 am asking what time to take him on a walk this morning.
Umm when you're up and ready to go. He's a dog! (she knows the routine I've had hi 3 years now)

When I said to her he will go when she takes him she asks me again what time should I take him.

So I said on the weekends he knows we leave later so he can have snuggle time in bed. So that varies depending on how he or I am feeling. No later that 11am.

She arrived after 11am because nicely she decided that she would do Sunday dinner. (thank you)

But was annoyed he was ready to go as she arrived!

The day has presented more tiffs but I really don't know how to deal with her.

She's always been unreliable and I accept it, so I don't ask, but when she offers it pisses me right off that she does the opposite!

4meAndyou · F

@Mellowgirl Extremely frustrating! But you should probably mention that your poor little dog is holding it in, waiting for her to arrive. Perhaps that will reach her mind. Perhaps not.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@4meAndyou I don't think she cares.
She's selfish.
It's not nice to say but I'll call it for what it is.

4meAndyou · F

@Mellowgirl Of course it's the worst possible time for you to have to deal with her unreliability...but as long as you are aware that she will probably let you down, it shouldn't sting so much.