I Love Traditional Old Fashioned Romance and Chivalry

is it unfair to want a guy to be considerate and thoughtful and romantic on the computer? i lost that and i want it back but is that selfish? guys (except the one i lost) just arent like that. it hurts when u want that from a guy youre trying to hope for something with and they just dont think of it. should i just stop caring too much and be like a guy with it? watever