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Labour relations

So I was enjoying a lie in this morning after a late finish to work, when my daughter called from school asking me to bring in her hockey skirt. Fifty minutes later, while I was handing over said clothing at the gate, she asked for a raise in her pocket money 🙄

Now times are hard and the value of money is eroded daily by inflation. But at the same time productivity has sharply fallen in our household since I sold my car (daughter used to clean it inside and out every three weeks as part of the chores she does for her allowance). So I don't think we have a very strong business case to present to the Board (my wife).

Being a Keynesian, I am all in favour of increasing the money supply regardless and boosting the local economy through sales of hair accessories, friendship bracelets, and Cadbury's fruit and nut bars 😝 But the economist in me wonders how just how sustainable this is or how the markets might react. My sister would go further and remove the link between pocket money and chores altogether. Although in theory I am in favour of a universal income, I still appreciate a helping hand with vacuuming and sweeping up leaves 🙂

Taken offguard, I meekly replied, "We will discuss it at dinnertime". So already I find myself in a weakened negotiating position 🤦‍♀️
MommyLucy · 36-40, F
[b] Awwwwwww! 💖💖💖 [/b] [c=7700B2] I think it is very good for children to learn to do some chores and be independent however I also hate the idea of too many chores as I personally believe childhood should be lots of fun! 🤸‍♀️🤸‍♀️🤸‍♀️ I give my precious girls chores and give Isabella pocket money for that but Emily prefers me to buy her gifts instead cause she likes presents more than money! 😂😂😂 If you don't want to increase her allowance but still want to reward her you could let her choose a small gift to buy her instead but maybe cause of my autism and my kids autism we prefer gifts in our family! 😝😝😝 All families are different and I wouldn't change yours for the whole world! 🤗🤗🤗 Listening to music helps make chores more fun and I think giving kids chores is a very good thing and helps them learn as long as they have time to play and be a kid cause kids learn though play so I believe kids should also have time to have fun everyday too! 💖💖💖 [/c] [b][c=008099] YOU'RE AWESOME! 🤗🤗🤗[/c][/b]
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
@MommyLucy Good girl! I love it when they get their homework out of the way early so they can do something more fun 😊

I bet she loved coming into work with you 😌
MommyLucy · 36-40, F
@SunshineGirl [c=BF0080] My youngest is by far the most well behaved so she's been an angel bless her! 🤗🤗🤗 My other two wonderful amazing kids are a little more naughty with my oldest trying to eat stuff you cannot eat and my middle child being a little cheeky sometimes but bless them kids are worth it all the world and a lot more and I do love children with all my heart! 💖💖💖 [/c]
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
@MommyLucy We take them as we find them 💖

Now I have been told we have an extra guest for dinner tonight and she needs to borrow some pyjamas 🤗
ineedadrink · 51-55, M
Your position is strengthened by the fact you had to bring something from home that she should have brought with her in the first place. Your time & effort should be taken into consideration. 😅
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
@ineedadrink That's all taken for granted . . what are mums for if not to be personal butlers to their teenage daughters?!
ineedadrink · 51-55, M
@SunshineGirl Aye, but timing is everything. 😉
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
@ineedadrink Yep, skirt was reunited with girl just in the nick of time!
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
This situation is one you should have pre planned. But lets move on from here. Step one in the negotiation is to retake the initiative. To that end, when she comes home you ask her what is for dinner...Here go to, if she has one, will probably be take out, which is fine as long as she is paying. If she retreats to this being your job, you remind her of her reduced inputs per the car and when she claims lack of training or preparedness, offer to assist her with both, for a small consideration. (I am sure you can think of something). This should (after much anguished wailing and gnashing of teeth) restore the status quo to where you are now chairing the meeting..😷
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
@whowasthatmaskedman Negotiations had to be suspended last night as she was too busy playing Just Dance with her friend!
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
At the risk of providing further evidence of my conservative tendencies, I'm with your sister! Remind her that she is no longer cleaning the car and that was in exchange for some of the prior pocket money arrangement. Put some chores on the table together with their value. Include some things she couldn't possibly do and some easy pickups. And then begin negotiating! ❤️❤️❤️
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
@sarabee1995 Life used to be so simple until she started babysitting for the neighbours and learned how a constrained labour supply could work in her favour!

Negotiations with my teenager are more complex than with the average trade union. She cooks two meals a week and does most of our baking, which I regard as a high value chore but she views as a leisure activity. But then she never cleans up after herself which is infuriating and to my mind a possible breach of contract, lol 😊
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@SunshineGirl Oh! I see opportunity here! Btw, I love baking as well. It relaxes me. But cooking is a chore. Anyway, back to daughter ... In my home growing up, clean-up was a requirement anytime I would bake. That rule must be set even if just to create good habits. But yes, treat the whole thing (baking & cleanup) as a high-value thing so she can learn that some jobs can be enjoyable if she applies her skills properly!
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
@sarabee1995 In her old childrens' home she was the celebrity baker and lesser souls did the washing up if they harboured any ambition of getting a cake! I need to be firmer about kitchen rules 🙂
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
Have a penalty shootout.
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
@JoyfulSilence I would be pre-destined to lose that!
GkB01 · 51-55, M
Does she still forget other things like PE plimsolls?
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
@GkB01 She would forget her own head if it weren't screwed on! Life is too easy now that mum lives only 5 mins from the school 😊
GkB01 · 51-55, M
@SunshineGirl Not that youd have any sympathy for forgotten plimsolls

 
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