Need help with spending money

When I am depressed I spend money. It’s a bad cycle. About $20,000 in debt and I would really like to get a handle on this before it gets more out of control. I have a good job an able to pay my bills just don’t know how to put money aside or pay more then the minimum payment on my cards. Any extra money I have after bills I spend. Please help. Any advice would be much appreciated.